Hi Elsa,
I have a question I am embarrassed about and ashamed to ask, but I thought you might be able to provide some clarity. The last thing I want to do is bad-mouth my man, but the strong attraction between us has a dark side: at times, I feel repulsed by him. Some of the good things - which relate to over-indulgence of food, drink, sex, and work - can be a total turn-off the next moment.
I love the intensity, but I hate his 'greed'. He can't seem to stop, especially when eating and drinking (but this relates to work, health etc. as well)- which shows on his body too - and I find myself feeling critical towards him. I also find him very controlling (he finds me very controlling too).
He is very much an optimist and full of energy, and I love to go out and party together, have deep conversations, mind blowing sex, having an eccentric lifestyle and feeling unrestrained by boundaries whatsoever. There is a very thin line here between me loving his gourmet and expansive being, and being repulsed by him 'overdoing' it. Am I being over-sensitive? If a healthy relationship is to succeed, should I be attracted to him all the time... and not on and off in extremes like I am now?
Has A Boyfriend Who Over the Top
Dear Top,
What an interesting question. You make him sound like a glutton, shoving food down his mouth. I believe I’d be disgusted as well! I have this picture of Dom DeLuise with a turkey leg in each hand! And you. A skinny, healthy diet conscious Virgo. Yeah, it’s probably not accurate, but amusing just the same.
I checked both charts to find out who the control freak is. And in spite of your concern over what goes into another person’s mouth, you do not seem especially controlling to me. Either does he, so this led me to check your composite - which revealed all.
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