In Ayn Rand's The Fountainhead, Roark, an architect, is meeting with prospective clients who are telling him what they want, or, more accurately, what they think they want due to cultural and societal influences. Roark, is quite outside the mainstream so he's been offending the sensibilities of the community. Well, as he is listening he draws the conclusions "There is no such person as 'X'", (meaning they are just an empty container filled with all the opinions of their friends and society.)
That's a pretty sobering thought. What IS filling your container? WHO is filling it? YOU or someone else? Do YOU exist?
You used to be an empty vessel. So did I.
You, and I, have been filled to overflowing with many, many messages about what it takes to make it in the world. What we need, what we should want, what is appropriate, or not for our behavior, for our goals, for our needs, for our desires. It's VERY hard to clean that stuff out. I don't know how possible it is to clean it ALL out. Some of us have a hard enough time keeping the tops of our desk clean!
So, if my friend was right, and I tend, at this point, to think she was--if life is empty and meaningless--it is up to you to create something with the portion you have given.
Make sure that you exist.