I have a son who is very difficult for me to deal with. He is very much a Leo and I find that we have a lot of the same traits and can hardly get along. We butt heads all the time and argue like crazy.
Is there anything I can do to get past all these difficulties?
I am going to be very candid with you and risk pissing you off. The reason is because I can’t imagine anything less will help you at all, and this is not a bullshit advice column.
Now your son and you both have your Sun in Leo, but this is the tip of iceberg as far as the similarities go. If you want to see a very reasonable facsimile of yourself, then look at your son. Because your charts match up, pretty much right down the line. So what’s that mean?
It means, this is your chance to give yourself the best parent ever. What did you need when you were a kid? That’s what he needs. What did you want? What made you happy? What were you most afraid of?
You hate criticism, don’t you? So does he. It cripples you to your core, doesn’t it? Same with him. See what I’m getting at? You have exceptional insight into your child, so this is an exceptional opportunity to really support him. Not every parent enjoys this circumstance. There is such a thing as a kid with five planets in Scorpio (intense) being born to two Geminis (superficial). How do you think that works out?
So here’s my best guess around where and how this relationship is falling down. First, let me say I think Leos are fantastic parents. Know why? Because they are kids themselves. They are willing to get on the floor and play with their kids. But when a Leo parent falls, they fall hard and I’ll tell you how it happens.