Okay ladies, listen up! There is one basic, yet classic mistake women make in relationships, that I need bring into the open: leaving your belongings at your boyfriend’s place.
Women do this because they like to leave reminders of themselves - almost like ensuring the men will think about them even when they're not there. Does this sound like a sign of insecurity? It is - at least that's how the men see it. This is not only a mistake, but also a habit that may become detrimental to the survival of your relationship.
Let's say you spend the night at a man's house. Do not automatically assume he owes you closet space, an empty drawer in his dresser, and extra space on the bathroom counter for your toothbrush, mouthwash, cleanser, perfume and deodorant. He certainly doesn't owe you any of that.
If you leave all those things behind, this will surely remind him of how forgetful, irresponsible, and messy you are. He's not going to get your hint (that you want to be cute and leave your things to remind him of you), and will only think you keep forgetting and that you don't care about your personal belongings. Dealing with moving your stuff around just to make room for his stuff will also annoy him. Most importantly, it will disrupt his routine of putting things where he usually does because your things are in his way.
Even if you are at a point in your relationship where you are spending more nights at his place than you at yours, this still doesn't, by any means, imply you live there. You still have your place and he has his. You aren't married. You are still paying your own rent. Your lives, although attached and connected, are still separate lives.
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Article comments
1 - Michael X
This is just one opinion but when a woman leaves her things behind I haven't thought of her as being forgetful, irresponsible or messy. What I usually think is she's trying to leave her mark that she was there, remind me of her by seeing her things and have a reason to come back. I also see it as her making my place hers, sort of territorial.
But you're right, most guys like to keep their space theirs unless you and her move in together.
2 - Marcia Neil
However, some females are carried around from place to place as a result from the wishes of various populations to place them in roles of population choice (right or wrong). Also, some comuunication networking is non-documented organized crime, in reality, such that individuals find themselves 'bunking' in places and with people outside their own bedroom or residence space.
3 - Kate
As a woman I've never done this, though currently have been seeing a guy who's slowly 'moving in' and it's freaking me out a bit
4 - Traci
Men and women are different. My boyfriend can roll out of bed looking great. To look great I require products, applicances, makeup and other supplies. It is a pain to tote this stuff back and forth. For real. Men, just make it easier and OFFER us space!! It's not like it's a proposal. It's a form of respect. Men can't have it both ways...expect us to look great and not give us a way to do it when staying over. It's not about trying to move in and stake a claim. It's a practical matter. It's not practical to always be packing, unpacking, and lugging a bunch of stuff back and forth. I thought men liked practicality. And shame on you for just telling women to suck it up.