Dear Elsa,
I’m a 22 yr old girl, and have only dated one guy. We were together for 8 months - though despite the fact that we were dating, he never called me his girlfriend. I think we were both insecure, because I never showed my feelings either. But he was always there for me, and we were together night and day.
My life took a different path than his, and I decided to move to another country across the world to pursue my dreams. He understood my decision, and was actually happy for me... although he also expressed his sadness. Since I was leaving him, I never had the guts to talk to him about our 'relationship'.
Now we've been apart for 4 months, and we still stay in touch. He calls me, we email, and he constantly talks about doing things together in the future. It hurts to be this way, so I actually tried cutting off all communication. But then he was the one who called, emailed and got online at random hours just to talk to me. When we were together, I could tell he liked me by his actions, but was never given any reassurance. Now I'm not sure if he's just playing games, or really feels something for me.
As you can tell, I am very insecure when it comes to relationships, especially since I haven’t had much experience. I still have feelings for him, but don’t know if I’m confusing one thing for another. I might be just living in an illusion. What should I do?
Please HELP ME!!
Signed,
Not Sure What to Do
Dear Not Sure,
You poor thing! This sounds a perfect hell! I’m going to tell you my straight gut on this, okay?
I think when you move away from someone, this is pretty definitive. I’m not saying you don’t have feelings for him, or he for you - because clearly this is not the case. I am saying that your life’s path has taken you away from him and I doubt this is an error.
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