Hi Elsa!
I've been dating a Gemini man for almost three months. Things have been very slow and I have been patient. But yesterday he called and I snapped at him that hadn't contacted me for a week. He said he had a problem with his phone and had been busy doing his house up. I said I didn't know and I was proud of him for working hard. I apologized as well.
Now I still don't know whether we are fine or we are over. Shall I wait for him to cool down and contact me, or just forget him? Please help!
Waiting By The Phone
Dear Waiting,
I think you’ve got a Gemini liar there. His phone is broken for a week? Pulllllease. No Gemini goes a week without a phone, believe me. I think this man is gone and he is waiting for you to figure it out. So what’s taking you so long?
Well, you have Venus in Capricorn and apparently don’t think you deserve much in relationship. And this is erroneous! So my advice is to forget about the guy. Instead, invest in yourself. Why do you settle for such crumbs? This is what you need to be thinking about if you want to take a step towards solving your problems in relationship.
Good luck.
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Hi,i love my man loads hes great sometimes on his own mision.were dating for 3 months slow but beuteful, i love his culture and everything about him .
2 - elizabeth
so theres this guy ive been tlaking to a while..hes a charmer and a gemini ive been readong thingss here and there about gemini
that they lie and flirt allot
yes flirt
they do they really do
and lie..well i wouldnt doubt it
because he does im a capricorn i dont know weather to let him go or play hard to get
at times we will talk and txt forever and in other times we wil g on for hours and wait for one another to kiss ass and give in a little message "i want you"
what should i do?
3 - Liz
the guy ive been talking too for a while is a gemini and me a capricorn
he is a flirt and he even knows it
well lets say he does
he's called a whore allot of times by several ppl and well he admitts to being used to it
ha
so yea i barley tarted talking to him and well at times hes such a tease he leads me on and at others he will be so cruel and somtimes he'll make me feel like a princess
when in a raltionship or trying to be serios with somone i manage to dominate and somehow gemini is complicated
had 4 different characteristics.
i dont know weather to
leave him alone and not carre for him because i know if i get to close to him he can easiy trap me in his cvharm and i will be lost in it and i know that naytime he can spot another woman to charm his way with her and leave me hanging and hurt
should i play hard to get?
should i stop talking to him?
i dont know what to do
becasue i know as a capricorn and him a gemini
i can get skin deep with anybody but hes so complicated he one of the most complicated people i have encountered hes my first time gemini
i dont know what to do i need tips
suggestions
capricorn & gemini
dont have much compatibility
i know that
but i honestly dont know what to do
:/
HELP ME!
4 - monique
I am in the same situation, i have a few Gemini friends, and yes i am a capricorn too and the guy i am dating a Gemini( he too is complicated) my guy is a flirt and when i met him he said he only did one night stands and i wasn't having that, so i got under his skin and i am just with him after mend a semi broken heart.The Gemini's i know have all cheated on their girlfriends and they are really good liars and charmers so getting a gal isn't hard. If you want him that bad, trust me you have to work overtime, from going on holidays, going out with your friends and being more independent. The only way it can work is if you look at it as an open relationship and keep it honest.Tell him, if he flirts you do the same, sleeps with someone, you too. You dont have to do it but he doesn't know that. N>B Gemini's dont like clingy girls or arguments so you have to bite your tongue and keep pf the phone, if you miss him that much, ring another male friend and let him take you out. If you want a good relationship, go out with a Tauras man you can beat that xx monique
5 - Tomal
loloooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
6 - nina
You do have to give them space but I have been with a gemini man for 6 months and it does not matter on the sign if a man wants you he will never leave if he doesnt want you nothing will make him stay...if he plays to many games then he is supposed to loose the girl and the relationship it is a 2 way street now adays if you sllep with someone else he can to if he cheats you can too, why suffer men make enough women suffer grow and move on when it is time, guard your heart getting it broken too many times your trust will never be the same or the next relationship. any man who loves you wont mind wearing a condom or calling you every week, any guy who says my phone does not work is full of baloney.
7 - Alicia
I can imagine a Gemini not calling you for a whole week. I have been dating my Gemini for a year now (I'm a Scorpio). Sometimes you just have to give your gemini some space...And be patient. They always come back. My man gives me hell sometimes because he is just so hard to pin down...and is not very affectionate. It's like dating a leaf blowing in the wind.
I think you should keep trying to get in touch though. It could be just his gemini nature.
8 - Johnnie
I'm a Gemini and I just got a new phone after mine was broken for more than 2 weeks. So it can happen.
9 - Sue
I've been dating a Gemini for almost 6 months now and he never forgets to call and I see him almost every other day, sometimes I stay over his place for weeks on end and he doesn't mind. Is is true he loves his space but after a day or two he'll call and want to see me again. This is the trick, don't try to hold a Gemini man down or demand anything from him and he will naturally want you around. I know my Gemini might leave me one day because he is in search of new things all the time but share his mindset- live for today only. Good luck girls.
10 - heather-don
Im a Libra and my man is a freakin GEMINI and they do pissed u off..ALOT! We been together for 9months and then i left him alone for 4months cause I pop up at his house off guard and caught him with another BITCH! I beat his ass and then got locked up for it.... Shocking we got back together and thinks is going well now I guess cause he realize that Im not the one to fuck with now....he kisses my ass and everything that he never did with me before he does now lol... everytime he acts up now which is rare I dont pay him no mind I just ignore him cause thats what he use to do to me in the past everytime i was upset and when he realize that I dont pay attention to his petty shit it makes him calm down and start actin right again;) all im sayin is "expect the unexpected" from a Gemini! dont feed into there bullshit cause they love to get you upset cause thats what makes them feel secure with theirself cause at the end of the day when you get yourself mad they could careless most of the time so why should u care when they are upset....do what i say dont feed into shit and expect the unexpected and see how they start acting;) let me know in the future if my advise worked for u....
11 - viktori
hhhmmmmm, I think u better all of u ladies should listen to Elsa. Why put up with that nonsense. U are all crazy. there are some good men out there who will really love you. I just ignored a dumb geminii with his superficial charm...who has time for that. Anyway, I deserve better, don't u.
12 - viktori
...and as for u heather-don...ur really crazy. beating up a man...are u that desparate..wow.
13 - Deana
I'm a Gemini Woman, dating a Capricorn Man.. and we've been together for 4 months. We actually do bicker here and there but we always communicate with eachother. so you can make the relationship last. and not all geminis are liars, and cheaters. i've never cheated on any of my ex's. But i'm sure a gemini girl is different from a gemini man. but i've had gemini guy friends that actually are good bfs... i'm sure it just really depends on the person, and just how bad you want the relationship to work and be worth it. i know Geminis need there space but I spend weeks with my boyfriend, and when i do leave it's only for a couple days. We do everything together, and we trust eachother. There's no suspision what so ever..
goodluck*
14 - Pat
I'm dealing with a Gemini man right now who's pissed off with me cause he asked me for $ and I said fat chance. I told him he's trying to use me and he said " What ever you think my love" What's that? Any how we are in a long distance relationship so I really don't know if he's trying to use or he's down on his luck right now and things are really tight. We've been talking for about 2 years on and off cause I wasn't really sure if I wanted a LD relationship. After spending time together I realized this is what I want to do. Now i don't know if his feelings are real for me. He was plannig to make a trip here to see if he likes it and then he would move, I don't know if that's going to happen now. This happened Tues. I tried calling he and txting but he won't answer. Show I forget this dude or what?
15 - DASHA
@ 10 - heather-don
SHE HIT IT ON THE HEAD.
THEY R KRAZY THE ONLY REALLY WAY TO GET AT A MAN IS TO FOLLOW HIS LEAD.
IF HE CHEATS U CHEAT
IF HE LYS U LY
UNTIL U GET TIRED AND U'LL LEAVE ALL TOGEATHER:)
THEN THAT WILL TEACH THEIR SORRY ASS A LESSON :)
16 - Casanova
I am a Gemini and please do not listen to heather-don. That is the worst advice straight up the bat. Evidently it is coming from see-sawing scales. My advice if you want to give this relationship a try is to worry more about yourself. Don't worry to much about what he could be doing or thinking. It is always best to focus on the self and how to remain in a state of self-confidence and assertiveness. About Gems not being able to go with out phones...total BS. Sure many of them love it. But who in the heck doesn't know a days? I personally hate phones. When I had a Gem girlfriend we rarely talked on the phone unless one of us had traveled than we were on the phone for hours. Usually I just use the phone to get food delivered or to make a plan. That is why I use top-up so I don't recharge it whenever I feel like. That is why I am not surprised when my friends randomly show up to my apt. just to say whats up. You could definitely get in touch with your Gem more often on the phone...but nobody really likes doing that just to hear insecurities. I would recommend something simple like...Hey I felt like calling just to see how you were doing. Give me a call maybe we could go out or something. You know what I am saying? Not the OMG! I dont understand why you dont call me? What am I supposed to do? Are we on or what? This sort of issues can be discussed in person in a more efficient and assertive manner. As far as saying that Gems like to make you tick because it makes them feel secure, I would totally disagree with this. I have only done this when people are constantly rude to me in a short span of time, when people project their own insecurities into my actions, and truth be told...just for fun. Insensitive, sure. But it is something I have matured out of. When dating a Gem is good to get to know yourself as best as you can. This is not the sign that enjoys being coerced to think, feel , or act one way. So being responsible for your own insecurities and how to communicate with your gem to as how an agreement can be made to satisfy both parties is a good skill to consider. Say for example, A baby I really like it when I am with you and It would really enjoy spending more time together in the future soon to be. That works way better than why are you not comming back! you dont care for me! blah blah blah. There always seem to be too much fear in relationships. I like it when a girl is open and honest. If a girl opens up to love him risking being hurt, a real man would love to care for her and protect her. Sometimes guy can be assholes and play games and truth be told sometimes bitches just make shit way too complicated and dont let themselves be loved. My concept of a relationship is enjoy the process of getting to know each other better, care for each other better, and satisfy each other better as both individuals learn, evolve, and re define their personalities. Why so much mental and emotional stress about finding all the answers in your head before you give and receive love? You can not achieve balance in a relationship with thinking in the days, and months to come because they are not here yet. Balance is found in living it, living the process of loving and taking the answers as they come. If to be found, balance is in the process of growing day by day. The question here is...do you want to find out where this path leads? or do you want to be confused in not knowing and trying to know? There is only one way to find out if that is your last choice. You never really know what could have been if you don't try. Let me know happens. I say let love rule. Like Lenny that Lenny Kravitz song that I am about to hear for the first time. Know yourself and get to know and understand your partner is what I recommend.
17 - Casanova
The last thing I would recommend to somebody who desires to be loved is to play tit for tat. An eye for an eye just leaves people blind to loving. Hopefully people are wise enough to listen with wisdom and not be mind boggled by people with issues projecting them in to the post. Your love is your love...not the dissatisfaction of others. What ever happened to self-empowerment and owning ones destine? What ever happened to the attitude of that that don't kill me can only make me stronger? What ever happened to trust? Whatever happened to trust and have faith in life? What ever happened to the notion that when something fails, and open heart is bound to receive something better from the universe? What ever happened to wisdom being applied daily in our lives...for ourselves and others? What ever happened to the astrologers that provided wisdom for understanding, cooperation, appreciation, and evolution? How is most of what you find on astro sites any beneficial for the evolution of mankind as a species now a days? What ever happened to the notion that Geminis have big hearts and emotions? Isn't it Ironic, that for all Geminis are accused of, everybody comes and rejoices in it and feeds of all those things amongst all these sites? Gossip, twisted ego satisfying half truths, and what not? It is 2010 people. Let's take our destinies in our hand and be responsible for our own happiness. It is not a time for ignorance. Spiritual enlightenment awaits for the brave who are read to truly love. Let's make this world a more loving, caring, and understanding planet!!! We have the power!!! Due to a little bit of dissatisfaction and many insights blazing through my mind I have decided to commit myself to run my own astrological website. Time to show these old so called astrologers how young Hermes will do it. No disrespect to astrologers in general but I am yet to find a true wise man doing his thing for the highest good of all. Peace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
18 - VIRGO2010
Geminis are something else -- that they are -- I was dating one too and he was the biggest liar I can find. He even lied about his age which I found was funny considering he had more gray hair than Moses. He had the nerve to tell me he was 40 and he looked every bit of 70 even from his droopy eyes. They play mind games and yes they do try to come back but you have to have more respect for yourself than that. If you continue to play with them, they will play with you and use you. Some may say this is an underdeveloped Gemini man but underdeveloped or not -- he is still a Gemini man and he is still a liar, cheat, thief, and he too tried to borrow money from me and not pennies but big money and when I refused this is when the games started.
19 - Casanova
W/E virgo...you attract what you are inside. Shoo. Don't try to mess up my inspired post. Shoo shoo shoo.
20 - Cappy Chick
I am a Capricorn woman who is deeply in love with a Gemini man. Trying to decode him is a full-time job, but there is nothing like having a solid friendship with the man you love. One who is deeply sensitive, caring, brilliant, and intuitive, with a gorgeous inviting smile. It took him 2 1/2 years to verbally express his love for me but it was well worth the wait.
Casanova ... thank you for your inspiring comments. You sound like a wonderful Gemini. Good luck with your website!
21 - Ca
To: Cappy Chick
You actually believe what's Casanova said in there?(-_-) Okay. To tell you what, Gemini men are really really REALLY good with words and it's hard to catch them if they are lying or not. I found out that Gemini men says whatever they said BUT RARELY, put them into action, which mean that you see/listen the word they tell you but you DON'T see the action they did. they just said out from their KNOWLEDGE and they don't mean it. That's why they were label a "good liar". So, be careful. I know few Capricorn women who married to Gemini men and found out that they cheated on them several times before they even got married. What's really surpised me was that they didn't file for a divorce. I guess capricorn women are TOO EASY to fall over gemini men's words???
22 - Zeg
LOLOLOL its true that Gemini men are good liars. One time, he told me that my friend are slut and doesn't want to date her. Then I told her about what he told me and she asked him if that were true and he said no. WTF?!? She believed him and not me? Oh well. I like how Ca said there. "I guess capricorn women are TOO EASY to fall over gemini men's word?" That's may be true and I might want to add most women as well 'cause they are too stupid or too easy to fall over their words. No wonders they were always given chances unlike other signs who doesn't get another chance. *sighs*
23 - VIRGO2010
And I rest my case.
24 - fedUp
A few words from an experienced "loyal" Leo lady.
I have dated this Gemini guy for 5 years. I have watched him closely. Since I am the very observant type. He lies like it's nothing. I almost feel that anything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. And that he talks for the sake of talking. He doesn't even know what he's saying. It's when they are silent, the truth is spoken!! Really hard on someone like me, who is full of passion and truth. He seems to think the words I love you are his saving grace. It used to work on me, since I am Leo, I am all about LOVE in the truest and purest form. Now when he says it- it feels so empty. It was a trick he used to keep me around. Actions speak louder than words, Gemini men. And being consistant..OMG... They don't know if it's Tuesday or August..lol.. It's true! They live in the Air. No depth. He is exactly like his Sun sign, then some. I have analyzed him, it is my leo nature. If I was a Psychiatric Doctor, I would have my personal Gemini DIAGNOSED. Oh my...I am simply fedUp!!
25 - Sylvia
PAT--This is a reply to Pat Message 14, Sounds very Familiar story, hope you dont mind me asking you mentioned LDR could you expand on what Country he lives in, we could have the same guy online. regards Sylvia