A while ago, I wrote a post called Just Because You Sleep There, Doesn't Mean You Live There!
Now, an even more important fact: Just because you sleep there, that doesn't make you his wife!
Women everywhere are in dead-end relationships. Meaning, they are in relationships that will never lead to the ultimate next step: marriage.
When neither party is ready, or looking for, that next step, there is no problem. Unfortunately, many women become ready for marriage long before their male partners do.
Some women will start to nag and pressure their partners into marriage and will ultimately get their way. Other women will not have the same fate. These women will try however they can to get their men to marry them and, when they don't succeed, all they will do is try harder.
One way women try to convince their men to marry them is by showing them that they can be really good wives. A woman will start acting like a wife long before she ever is one. Sometimes, it's because she is ready to be a wife so it feels natural for her to start acting like one. But other times, a woman becomes desperate to be a wife and starts acting like one because it makes her feel like one, just a little bit.
These women will start cooking, cleaning, and taking care of their men just as any good wife would do. This includes doing their laundry, running their errands, and spending her money like it is "their" money. They will even think, "One day, I'll have to do these things anyway, so I might as well start now." I say, "Why now?"
I met a girl not too long ago who has been with her boyfriend for six years. They each have their own place but she stays over at his place most nights of the week. Here are some of the things she said to me that made me sad for her:
"I do his laundry because I have a washer and dryer in my apartment and he has to walk across the street to use the public washer and dryer. How awful is that? So, every week, I take his laundry, and do it at my place. I have to do mine anyway so it's not much more work to do his too."