So how can you add that spice and excitement back into your relationship so that you're not just lusting after those hot bodies at the gym?
Seduction as a game for lovers - the chase begins anew
The thrill of seduction doesn't end when you get into a relationship. Why give up such a wonderful thing, even if you could?
Admit it, we enjoy the chase. I know I do and I'm at peace with it. And if you're not chasing your lover, you'll end up chasing someone else. We're just wired that way. So let's just accept that fact and use it to our advantage.
When was the last time you tried to seduce your partner? No, I'm not talking about coming home and saying "Hey, let's go have sex". Blah! Boring!
I mean dressing up to look your best, wearing something sexy and feeling sexy.
Some of the best and most exciting sex is spontaneous sex, when you're so wrapped up in the heat of the moment that you just can't stop from ripping each other's clothes off! Now that's excitement. And doesn't it sound more fun than "Hey, let's go have sex"?
Schedule hot sex dates
You go through the trouble of scheduling lunch and dinner appointments with just about everyone in your life. How about paying at least that much attention to your lover? Make time for that really steamy hot date, and plan accordingly. That way you'll both be anticipating it all day, or all week.
Make a sex date box
Here's a neat idea. Get together with your lover and each of you jot down a steamy date idea on a piece of paper and agree that each time you go on a hot steamy date, you'll pick a card from your special sex date box.
Watch some erotic movies - together
Basic Instinct, Wild Orchid, 9 1/2 Weeks - it doesn't have to be Playboy porn, just something that gets you excited; trust me — he'll get excited simply by you being excited.
Article comments
1 - melissa
i love this article...i've recently purcahsed a new lingerie and i'm waiting on the right moment to put it on .but we have a 6month old baby and we both work 8:00-5:00 shifts.thanks to your article which i enjoyed there are going to be some changes in my sex life .THANK YOU.
2 - Andy Marsh
How 'bout this...August 2nd will be my wife and I's 25th wedding anniversary...
WE only knew each other two weeks when we went to Vegas and got married.
The only thing that makes a marriage work is that both of you have to want it to work.
3 - uhnawneemuss
Thanks for the suggestions. Appreciate it :)
4 - LoverOfToys
This is a great article, but there is always more to add to the solutions. Yes, I agree after time the sex life diminishes and you do have to work at it all the time. Marriage is work and so is your sex life to keep it going. There is too much temptation out there on TV, Magazine Covers and so forth. You need to experiment, do things you normally wouldn't do to keep it interesting. People get tired at night after working, taking care of the kids, but put your best foot forward and make the effort. I know my man loves it when I initiate the act because it makes him feel wanted and it tells him I am in the mood. Granted, he can tell if I am not in the mood and it doesn't make for great sex. Help eachother release tentions and relax to get in the mood and most of all make him feel wanted and you'll get what you want most. A great sex life. Don't forget to change it up though.
5 - joe
this seriously helped alot, i was alone while reading this, im going to ask my girlfreind to read the exact article after she's done work, i really hope this helps..
wee been together for about 2 years and a half, i love her to death but dont get me wrong, the sx drive has ruined alot for us, i think its very unhealy we have had intercourse unde 10 times in that long period of time..
6 - DJ
I almost let a boring sex life ruin my marriage...you just kind lapse into a sex "routine"! You start to lose your drive and people setle for that!! I did.
7 - TT
I am really struggling to keep this relationship going.I'm losing interest in sex but i'm going to try to livin things up.
8 - bex1984
my man never wants to have sex with me.. ive tried the whole dressing up things ive bought toys and still not interested i love him to bits and he loves me but im not sure how long this can last like this its so boaring and we need help
9 - chelsea
So I read this artical. And I love it! Me and my boyfriend have been dating scince high school, haven't made the marriage plunge yet but we will when the time is right. But we were having a lot of problems with when the right time to have sex was. this really helped to just sit down and talk about getting hot with each other. And the sexy date box works really good!
Thanks a lot