Here are some ideas that will help you make the best decision for you.
Does he know how you feel?
Open and honest communication is the most important component of any relationship.
Talk about it! Yes, with him, not with your girlfriends, not with anyone else. It's absolutely amazing how many lovers simply don't communicate openly and honestly with one another.
So many guys chat about their love live with their buddies, often as a way of bragging and showing off. And then they ask their guy friends if this or that sex idea would be okay. This is a bad idea for guys and girls. If you're trying to figure out what sexual experiences to try out, talk with your lover not your buddies.
So, does he know that you crave hot spontaneous sex, or that you get excited by playing a little rough? Guess what, he might like that too! Or he might not, but you'll never know if you don't explore this topic together. And by the way, you'll have a lot of fun and get a lot closer in the process.
Don't hurt anyone's feelings and check your ego at the door
It's a strange thing, but sex partners often get their feelings hurt when one of them suggests trying something new, or doing something a little differently.
Get over it! The point of sex and intimacy is to enjoy each other and be happy together! Unless of course you're focused solely on making babies - but that's not the topic of this article.
Getting comfortable and killing your relationship
Complacency, also known as "getting comfortable" is the death knell of so many relationships, it may as well be a full blown epidemic. So many couples strive to "get comfortable". What that means is they stop trying. And guess what... you stop trying, and your relationship dies. It's that simple. The excitement and attraction dies, and your relationships becomes a project that you're always fixing up. That's no fun.
Article comments
1 - melissa
i love this article...i've recently purcahsed a new lingerie and i'm waiting on the right moment to put it on .but we have a 6month old baby and we both work 8:00-5:00 shifts.thanks to your article which i enjoyed there are going to be some changes in my sex life .THANK YOU.
2 - Andy Marsh
How 'bout this...August 2nd will be my wife and I's 25th wedding anniversary...
WE only knew each other two weeks when we went to Vegas and got married.
The only thing that makes a marriage work is that both of you have to want it to work.
3 - uhnawneemuss
Thanks for the suggestions. Appreciate it :)
4 - LoverOfToys
This is a great article, but there is always more to add to the solutions. Yes, I agree after time the sex life diminishes and you do have to work at it all the time. Marriage is work and so is your sex life to keep it going. There is too much temptation out there on TV, Magazine Covers and so forth. You need to experiment, do things you normally wouldn't do to keep it interesting. People get tired at night after working, taking care of the kids, but put your best foot forward and make the effort. I know my man loves it when I initiate the act because it makes him feel wanted and it tells him I am in the mood. Granted, he can tell if I am not in the mood and it doesn't make for great sex. Help eachother release tentions and relax to get in the mood and most of all make him feel wanted and you'll get what you want most. A great sex life. Don't forget to change it up though.
5 - joe
this seriously helped alot, i was alone while reading this, im going to ask my girlfreind to read the exact article after she's done work, i really hope this helps..
wee been together for about 2 years and a half, i love her to death but dont get me wrong, the sx drive has ruined alot for us, i think its very unhealy we have had intercourse unde 10 times in that long period of time..
6 - DJ
I almost let a boring sex life ruin my marriage...you just kind lapse into a sex "routine"! You start to lose your drive and people setle for that!! I did.