I must admit, however, that last year there was a nice exception to the trend. I again asked my friends to forgo any birthday gift to myself and instead make a donation (if they wanted to) to a local charity that lends support to low-income families. Not only did they all receive a thank-you note back from the nonprofit, they also received notes from the actual families their money went to help.
To this, I just had to say, “Wow!” I don’t care if the main drive behind this was to solicit more money out of these benefactors, it was still refreshing to see and hear about. In fact, if that was the main reason, I just have to say – it worked. I now recommend this charity on my birthday and each Christmas. (There’s another great reason to write a thank-you note – more money and gifts!)
We are all busy and we easily get sidetracked in this technology-driven world, but that’s no reason for us to forget our manners. The times may be changing, but that doesn’t mean we should.
Whether it’s just because you are a good human being, or because you want the gifts to continue in the future, I suggest we all – especially my kids and grandkids – once again engage in that wonderful act of expressing our gratitude with a handwritten thank-you note.
By the way, I am still awaiting thank-you notes from two sons and three grandchildren for past birthdays and holidays. Sure hope for their sakes something comes by Dec. 25th.
– BizarroGuy's Mother
P.S. Along these same lines, what ever happened to the nice customary hand wave to say thanks when someone lets you merge in front of them?