I have a very big problem with my best girlfriend of over a decade. To be blunt, the problem is her meanness. She is a person who, on a regular basis, says extremely nasty and hurtful things to me and the rest of our mutual friends.
I don't mean to make her sound so atrocious, but I can't seem to help it. My husband and most of my friends do not like her at all, since she has something nasty to say about everyone and everything. Now I know it may be hard to believe, but I still love her. We have A LOT of history, and she hasn't always been a bad friend.
I am afraid of many things if I decide to cut her out of my life. I'm afraid of losing a part of my teenage years that I hold very special, I'm afraid of losing her rare moments of understanding; I'm afraid of losing my best friend. Unfortunately, the fact is, in many ways, I have already lost her. I can't tell her my secrets; she blabs. I can't share my triumphs; she accuses me of conceit. I can't share my difficulties; she's rarely supportive.
I'm a Cancer — a water and moon baby — and if you haven't already guessed, I'm a very sensitive, compassionate, "love, light, and fairy dust" kind of girl. I consider my friends to be my family. Cutting her from my life would be sad, painful and difficult - and I don’t usually just give up on those that I love.
I'm torn. What should I do?
I believe you believe your story and I’d believe it too... if you didn’t have a big fat Moon Pluto conjunction in the eighth house! Since you do, I think this situation has a much deeper root... er... roots. See, you’re a Cancer and I will buy the Moon baby bit and the associations with “family”. I will also buy the “fairy dust” part, considering you’re a Pisces rising.