Dear Elsa,
There was this guy I worked with a few years ago. We worked well together, and then I left for other work. We ran into each other back in October, and he asked me out.
Things were wonderful, easy, joyful - a real connection. The problem is that now he's saying he's still in love with his ex-girlfriend of eight years. The one that is psycho, married, and has two young children by her current husband. Somewhere in the eight years he was with her, she divorced her first husband and married her second. He didn't know about the first husband until five years into his relationship with her, and she didn't tell him about the second husband until a year after the marriage!
I feel like I walked into the loony bin on this one. I really like him and feel in sync with him, but I know from my history that I tend to attract men that aren't good for me. I wonder if it’s worth the wait or if he's just "not good for me" in the long run.
Will he stop dreaming of her and respect our relationship?
Standing By
Dear Standing,
When a man tells you he is in love with another woman, dreaming of another woman... well, this is your cue to leave. And it’s very of smart of you to be catching on to your propensity to attract these situations. So how about I try to help you with that?
First, regarding all these "not good for you" men you attract: you are not a victim. What happens is, situations like this show up, and you choose to participate. And I believe the reason is, all this Virgo and Pisces / 12th house energy in your chart. You want to sacrifice. You want to hang on a cross; you just can’t help yourself.
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