I was never a typical girl growing up and as a result, I'm not a typical woman either. I adore the idea of devoting a day to those we love. In my mind, if the death of Christ is celebrated with bunnies and chocolate and we honor a saint by having parades and getting blasted on green beer — well, surely love deserves a bit of acknowledgement.
I guess my problem is the way that people are prone to treat one another 364 days out of the year. Shouldn't it really be the same as today? Is it so difficult to be kind to those you love every day? Shouldn't that come naturally? I've been married for close to a decade and I'm well aware of how easy it is to begin to take things for granted. Seeing your partner walk through the front door doesn't always bring a smile to your face, not because of a lack of love, but because things get lost in the shuffle of everyday life. Work, kids, bills, house, repeat over and over on a daily basis. Suddenly that flash of a grin, brush of skin or goodbye kiss almost feels like an afterthought. Something that you do so often that those moments escape you.
Valentine's Day is always celebrated in our house, but as a reinforcement of every other day spent together. Yes, I love flowers but my husband knows NEVER to send me red roses. I abhor them. In my mind they are exactly the perfect flower that men have been conditioned to buy. Have a fight, bring her red roses. If it's her birthday, bring on the red roses. Special night planned, don't forget the bouquet. Giving me a red rose is like telling me you haven't paid a bit of attention to who I am and that I am no more unusual than the lady next door.
Article comments
1 - Jodie
Beautifully written. I agree. Today it seems like we just rush, rush, 24-7. I for one am better for having read your post and am going to put some extra effort into showing my loved ones I care!
2 - Trinket
Thanks Jodie! Have a great day!
3 - Jewish American Princess
I couldn't have said it better myself. I have been saying for years that Valentine's Day is being taken too seriously and the rest of the year is not. Why must we wait until a specific day to show someone that we love. Say it with flowers? Nay. Flowers die eventualy. A smile, however, stays forever.
4 - Victor Lana
Love the post, Trinket (though I don't love this day).
One glaring thing I noticed: you mention honoring the "birth" of Christ with bunnies and chocolate. I think you mean Easter, which is the death and resurrection and not the birth.
5 - Trinket
Hmmm. I did edit that earlier & thankfully it's now showing as corrected. that's what happens when toddlers are running by as I write!
Glad you liked it Princess & Victor!
6 - Ayu
Jewish American Princess: I have been saying for years that Valentine's Day is being taken too seriously and the rest of the year is not. Why must we wait until a specific day to show someone that we love. Say it with flowers? Nay. Flowers die eventualy. A smile, however, stays forever.
That's beautiful. And Trinket, thank you for the beautiful piece :-)