I have met someone who I have fallen very in love with. It's a love unlike any I've ever felt. As a matter of fact, I feel like the other times I loved someone are kids' games in comparison.
The problem is, he’s a Virgo. He is stable, secure, no-nonsense, responsible, not exactly spontaneous, gentle, caring, loving, and calm. I worry that I'm just too... I don't know. Flighty. Scattered. Messed up by the past (as I was abused and raped multiple times during my life).
I have no confidence in my abilities to even keep someone as good as he is. I feel I'm just too messed up and not good enough for someone like him. Hell, even at the old age of nearly 39, I don't even have a damned driver's license, because I've allowed others to tear down my self-confidence my entire life.
However since he's come into the picture, everything has just... started fitting together somehow. I've started gaining some of the confidence to do what I need, and look past my utter fears of failure. And he has been instrumental in that. He tells me he wants me to be, and I quote, '"a strong independent woman"'.
Since we've met, I've gotten my driver's permit and am learning to drive. I’ve gotten a real job and started putting my life together. And I very much want him to be part of that life.
But my biggest fears are around our long term compatibility. I'm scatterbrained, unstable, insecure, and an airhead at times. He's down-to-earth, solid, serious, and grounded. I feel I have nothing to offer someone like him and I'll just end up being a disappointment – even though I love him with all of my heart and he loves me, too.
I guess the question is, am I just being stupid here? Am I worrying for nothing by second guessing myself? Is there hope for a steady, solid Virgo with a messed-up Gemini?
Listen. Your man is human and so are you. He is a human Virgo, so he likes to help people and you are graciously allowing him the opportunity to help you. He is not complaining and why is that? It’s because he needs you as much as you need him. It seems to me that everyone is winning, so this whole thing is looking pretty good from my perspective.