Why does he suddenly want to stop being friends after you break up?
Breaking up is hard on both of you. There are many reasons why he may no longer want to talk with you or to be friends.
Here are some possible reasons why some find it difficult to stay friends after a breakup:
- He may need time to heal emotionally. It could be painful to see you.
- He may be seeing someone else and fears that being friends with you may jeopardize his new relationship.
- If the breakup was difficult, he may be angry at you and need some time to cool off.
- Being around you may bring up emotions and feelings that he's trying to suppress.
It could be one of these or a hundred other different reasons and you'll make yourself crazy trying to guess what that reason is. In the end, the 'why' doesn't really matter because breaking up is an emotional decision, not a logical decision. When we try to identify the 'why', what we're really doing is trying to come up with a logical explanation for an emotional decision. If you stop and think about this for just a moment, you'll see why it doesn't make sense to even try. So whatever the reasons, he's decided that the two of you can't be friends and you need to face that and move forward with your life.
If you continue to try to figure it out, you'll just end up blaming and finding all kinds of faults with yourself, which will in turn make you miserable. If you keep pushing him, you could end up spoiling any chance of a future friendship.
So STOP! Yes, right now. It's time for you to move on with your life and find happiness.
One of the best ways to get over the pain of a relationship that has ended is to get back out there and date some new people - find that connection again.
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