If you feel compelled to forgive the person who hurt you, more power to you, but please don't buy into the horribly misguided notion that forgiving someone is going to change anything or anyone. Please don't let anyone tell you the good of your recovery and your healing is something you should pass on to the person who hurt you. It's yours, you worked for it, and you decide who you share it with - and if this isn't the person who hurt you, that's a perfectly reasonable and healthy decision.
Forgiveness is the act of pardoning debt. Victims aren't lenders, and predators aren't debtors - they're criminals.
Article comments
1 - Victor Lana
Wow! Just amazing, Diana. I am sure others who have suffered will gain strength from this wonderful, honest article.
2 - Christopher Rose
You're still, after all these years, one of my favourite writers, Diana I love your honesty.