Jesus specially pointed out she had been married five times and now lived with another man. (John 4:18) Jesus did not tell her to go back to living with one of her other husbands but instead told her what she needed to do to get her life together. This story is not about Jesus approving of her past marriages but instead about Jesus seeing her as a person damaged by sin. He did not look at her and say, “Well, I’m sorry. You’re going to have to go to the back of the line behind all the “good” people who have only been married once and wait until I’m done blessing them, and then I’ll bless you.” NO WAY!! Instead He simply said, “If you only knew the gift God has for you and who you are speaking to, you would ask me, and I would give you living water.” (John 4:10) He was all she needed. She just needed to discover this fact.
You see, it ALL points back to God. We all need God. Marriages need God and we all need Him at the center. We need His abundant flow of living water. The love of Christ transcends all other loves and for marriages, it is its truest strength. The love of Christ is the only love that bonds a marriage. It is the only love that heals the broken life of a broken marriage. Whether you stand within the walls of a marriage, healthy or not, or on the outside dealing with the mess of divorce, grab hold of Him. Drink of His living water and focus your attention on His face. When we cling to Him, He alone is what holds all things together.