I do not profess to be a great theologian. However, I will proclaim to be one who has found Jesus in the midst of a great storm. I have walked through the devastation of divorce and I have my own thoughts on what it looks like to be a Christian dealing with divorce.
I have walked the road. I have experienced the pain, the rejection, the humiliation, the feelings of abandonment and betrayal, the loneliness, and the feelings of complete failure. I have spent time searching scripture for answers while yearning for healing. I found that "the church" in and of itself in not a "nice" place for women suffering through the devastation of divorce. Through my struggle and journey, though, I have learned that it is not the church’s place to heal my hurts. Only One can heal. He is the One I must seek to find true healing, but to get there I have to understand where I have come from and where I ended up.
Being someone who has personally dealt with the issue of divorce, I can tell you that there is a lot of “preaching” and finger-pointing that take place as a marriage begins to crumble. There is a lot of blame placed and excuses made but in the end, there is only ONE reason why a marriage fails and that is the absence of God in the marriage. He is the only One that holds things together and without Him, marriages fail. He IS the tie that binds. When two people stand before God and a room full of witnesses, promises are made of a solemn and binding relationship meant to last a lifetime. This covenant is the single most important human bond, which holds God’s work together, and is based on His covenant with us.
What happens when that covenant is broken? What happens to the broken mess left behind? Searching out truth in this area is tough. People are quick to give opinions of their own and I have learned to avoid those who pay a lot of lip service to things that they do not understand or fail to live out in their own life. Instead, I have sought out to discover the Truth of God’s word from the One who was willing to sacrifice His life for mine. This is where I found hope and truth!