I remember my parents telling me how they wrote a list while they were dating. I thought it was cute, but they eventually got married. Isn't this something I want to share with my future husband? Is it wrong to name your children while dating?
When more of my names began to be influenced by my boyfriend's Spanish background, and we had added a couple of years to our relationship, I conceded to include him. (I have had to draw the line at middle names, though.) My sister is great evidence of how one's list is ever-changing, so in the end it really doesn't matter. I will admit that perhaps I was being too serious by hoarding my names.
It is kind of fun to share names, but we all know who will have ultimate veto power. In my boyfriend’s words, "It isn't just a name, but an imaginary future person I already love." Even if we do not spend forever together, I would most certainly not ever credit him with having the power to ruin one of my future children's perfect names.