Many times I watch pretty girls in pink change into punk rockers in black, and then into sports gurus in red. Every time you see these girls they have a different interest, look, and personality. Why in the world do they change their lives so much? The answer is simple: boys.
As I observe the world of dating through personal experience, television, and close friends, I have found two common routes to failure. The first is making the other person your identity, and the second is trying to write your own perfect ending by yourself. Our culture has taught us to take God out of the picture and and do the dirty work ourselves, but this is only hurting us in the long run.
Regarding the first problem, how many times do you see people change themselves from relationship to relationship, just to keep “someone special” around? Why do people do that? A little sacrifice, a little bending is just part of a healthy relationship, and any good married couple will tell you that compromise is key, but what I’m talking about are complete life makeovers during a two-week relationship. This type of compromise is not healthy.
I think we sometimes rely so much on other people that we hurt ourselves. The real character of a person comes out when unexpected change takes place. A loved one dies, the company makes pay cuts, or the house burns down. These are all times of unexpected change when people either shape up or blow up. I think the key to not blowing up is putting your faith and security in something that never changes. Yes, the changing situations will always be there, but if you don’t make them your number one priority you won’t be let down. Thus, making people your life is bad dating advice.
Article comments
1 - Sansfoy
Maybe you have hit on why there are so many unhappy people. More than half of all marriages end in divorce. Why is that? Maybe because they didn't wait for the right person? Letting go sounds like a way to just let something come to you (or come back to you).