Culture Clash: Chores, Sex and Smart Solutions

Part of: There, I Said It!

My family immigrated to New Zealand from the States when I was 11 years old. By the time I was 14, we owned a 500-hectare farm and were working from dawn to dusk as farmers do. But that’s where our homage to tradition ended—and why our Kiwi neighbors, steeped in generations of farming know-how, often looked askance at us.

Back in the mid 1970s, most Kiwi farmers—and every last one of our immediate neighbors—subscribed to certain immutable laws regarding chores and gender. Girls did the inside chores. Period. If a farmer’s lass did venture out into the paddocks, she was carrying a tray of refreshments for the real workers.

My parents had three daughters and no sons. So, as a New Jersey Yankee in King Kiwi’s Court, my father made adjustments. He put hydraulic-powered pinchers on the front end of the tractor, so we could rid our paddocks of the fast-growing broom and gorse weeds without benefit of huge biceps. When we harvested in late summer, he made our hay bales 70 lbs instead of 90 so his wiry daughters could sling them around. It made transporting the bales to the barn, building a pyramid of grassy bricks up to the cobwebby rafters, and feeding out in winter much easier.

The dirt roads running through our farm didn’t carry much traffic, so a plume of dust in the distance was an event that merited a short work break to eyeball the intruder, even during the chaos of feeding out. More often than not, though, it was a neighbor slowing down to take in the sacrilegious spectacle of girls doing a man’s job. We soon learned to pretend certain vehicles weren’t there because the faces inside clearly weren’t happy with the tableaux on display: Three slim girls balancing on the back of a flatbed truck, utility knives in hand, slashing green binder twine apart and tossing swatches of hay into the mooing herds around us.

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I was born in Michigan, raised in New Jersey, dragged off to New Zealand at age 11, dragged back to the States at age 28, and I’m still in North Carolina 23 years later. At the time, I knew that emigrating to the other side of the world was a big deal, but I can conjure up only one clear memory. …

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  • 1 - Andrew Williams

    Mar 20, 2011 at 1:38 pm

    I'm in sort of a culture clash myself, being trapped inside a billionaire's house. Ha! So it was refreshing to read this post about an outdoor way of life in a far away land. They're probably still doing things the old way, but at least now they can text each other while they're working. Ha! We try to work smarter around here too, btw. Sure saves a lot of wear and tear.

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