Before I talk about the Couples Love Decathlon, let me you ask a question. What do spring-cleaning, focus groups, the playoffs, and studying for final exams have in common? Simple answer: If you slack, you lose.
All of these take work to be successful. Each of these four activities involves an intensive process to bring everything together in a certain period in time. People involved in the process pull together their best energy and effort to achieve a goal. The process consists of ideas, values, strategies, and plans put into action. The process is designed to produce optimal results. If you neglect the effort, the result suffers.
Marriage (and other intimate relationships) is an evolving process, not an event. Marriage does not just happen and then continue unchanged. All relationships need attention to remain satisfying and grow. Your attention (or inattention) to your marriage determines how your marriage changes.
Whether our goals are relationship-based, directed to maintain pleasant living conditions, develop solid marketing programs, be on a winning team, or achieve great academic success, we must intensify our efforts on a regular basis, or at least from time to time. If we fail to take ongoing action to support our goals, success will not continue.
Too many couples behave like the love and spark in their relationships will survive forever without action. Shouldn’t you have a goal and take action to grow the love and spark in your marriage?
Oh, I know, there are plenty of excuses (I mean reasons) why couples let their marital relationships slip and slide. The reasons are grouped into two main categories: the family fast-track, and job demands. We end up taking our marriages for granted.
Couples often find sustaining a love connection overwhelming because they are headed in different directions. They may have little money or few resources for babysitters and a date night. Generally, couples may experience disrupted time and distractions due to family or business obligations.
Partners do not dock in the same port very frequently or for very long. There will always be too much happening, so what's a couple to do? Enter the Couples Love Decathlon. You do not need to leave town. Consider completing it over a regular weekend. Select next Friday to begin.
I recommend you complete your Couples Love Decathlon within 48 hours, but adapt the timing to your situation as needed. The idea, however, is to infuse your relationship with an intensive surge of romantic and intimate behavior, which generates renewed spark and energy. When life’s daily routines grind on your relationship, repeat your Couples Love Decathlon.
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