Dear Elsa,
Many years ago, I dated a much older man. I was young and inexperienced, and the relationship ended with much pain for both of us. We had a good thing, and I bear full responsibility for all the hurt involved.
I hadn't thought about this guy for a long time, but now I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I'm dreaming about him Elsa, but not in a sexual or romantic way. I keep dreaming about meeting him on the street or on the bus, and then telling him how sorry I am for the way things transpired in the past.
I am somewhat tempted to track him down and apologize for the past, but I'm not sure this is an appropriate action to take. Any insight into my sudden thoughts is appreciated. Where do I go from here?
Sincerely,
Stuck In The Past
Dear Stuck,
In general, I don’t think something like this is a good idea and I’ll tell you why.
When relationships end, people do move on. They heal. Time heals the wound. So the idea that you have this guilt after all these years… well that’s your problem, you know? And if you’re looking to contact him so he can absolve you of something, I don’t think you should. I think this is the wrong action. And you better think about it, because you’re a Capricorn and “wrong actions” have serious repercussions – always.
So here’s the criteria: are you contacting him for him or for you? Because chances are very good that he has completely healed from the trauma of your relationship. Chances are he is in another relationship, so what you would be doing is intruding.
Article comments
1 - jimmica
i belive u should juss 4 the hell of it youll feel better and he would yes he would b thinking about it later on sum way but theres two possiblitys i dont give a fuk or we can make it again u know
2 - Derrick G
Its always good to tell people how you feel. Nomatter how hard it is for you, capricorn.