Guys tend to think lame gimmicks are the secret to getting the girl. When I was at this convention, I was stuck behind these two guys when one of them stepped on the back of a girl’s heel and said, “Oh, I’m sorry”. When she was far enough away, the guy turned to his friend and said, “That’s how you pick up a girl. You step on the back of her heel, and when they turn around you apologize and start a conversation with them.” I said to the guys, “You mean sucker punching a girl isn’t a good way to pick one up”? They didn’t find my comment very funny. I should of informed those “gentlemen” that in the summer of 2004 I developed my own system to pick up women at college. This is not meant to say I’m some professional player or something like that, but after doing a little research with my female friends and observing the typical male strategy, I can safely offer this advice for your consideration.
The most important step is to know what you’re looking for. While I don’t advocate random hookups, certain places like the bar or a party would be better suited for that than a classroom or library. If you want a girlfriend, then you would be better off looking for girls you know in class, or women who visit the library.
You should lose the lame pick up lines and keep the conversation focused on her. Smile, introduce yourself, and be confident. If you get rejected you get rejected. You just look your best and try to relax. I’m an “appearance is all in your head” kind of guy, but sadly people do care about how you look. If you approach a girl looking like Zoltar from the plant Fartcracker with grease dripping down and smelling like the Centers for Disease Control would want to quarantine you, it might be a good idea to clean yourself up.
A girl you just met doesn’t really care about you and the fact that you can bench press your weight in maple syrup. She wants you to talk about her. Ask her about what she does, how she feels about school. And if you do disagree with her on something tell her. A woman wants a guy with guts. If you get your foot in the door you can build on trust and respect. Conversation is an important aspect to trying to pick up a woman. Some girls might be interested in a guy that can grunt, but a woman wants someone she can talk to.
Article comments
1 - Victor Lana
Brandon,
I found your post to be quite enjoyable (even if it's rather subjective). What works for one guy never really works for another (for the most part).
Back in my single days I practised a very successful method for meeting girls: I was aloof and mostly ignored them. I based this on a philosophy my older cousin told me once: you never meet a girl when you set out to meet a girl. So my basic game plan was to go out not to meet a girl.
Truthfully, this worked much better than I could ever believe. I met so many girls that it was just amazing, and I didn't have to expend much effort if any.
Just one take on it. Of course, that was over ten years ago, so perhaps the game has changed. I'm glad I roamed the dating field when I did.
Good luck, man!
2 - chantal stone
brandon...you're the total package---sweet, smart and funny...if i were 10 years younger...and not married...and if i didnt have 3 kids...and if i wasn't stuck in the middle of ohio...i would totally date you!
3 - larry
i am a 65 year old widower.i live with my son and his family. does anyone have some tip for me
4 - mike meyers
My name is Mikey Meyers, do you have any dating tips for me? I think I like some girl
5 - mike meyers
in the library but am too scared to ask. Thanks.
6 - Jordan Meyers
Oh, hello, this is JM. I was wondering if anyone could tell me how to pickup my sister. She sometimes asks me if I want hot chocolate and I say yes. My brother Mikey is also wondering. Thanks for all the help, I boxxed my dad with sweatpants wrapped around his hands, it was fun but I ended up in the hospital. Thanks, bye.
7 - Angus Miegh
I don't think there is much skill to picking up women if they fancy you then you are in if not then no amount of clever teniques will win here over. The key to picking up women is to speak to and try to befriend as many women as possible until you find one that is interested in you.