Hi Elsa,
I was in a horrible relationship for three years, until I found out I was pregnant - which is when I decided to leave. About halfway through my pregnancy, I met a great guy and we've been together for a little over two years now.
I thought things were going great until two months ago... when I found out he cheated on me. I was devastated. He has continually told me how sorry he is, and has tried to show it as well. He called the other girl in front of me, told her what happened was a mistake, and that he was already in a relationship. He also told her there wouldn't be anymore contact between the two of them. I had a hard time believing they weren't still secretly calling each other, so he even went as far as to close down his cell phone account.
He pretty much goes out of his way to SHOW me he isn't cheating on me anymore. He comes straight home from work. He includes me in all of his plans. But I can't seem to get over what he did. We weren't married, so a big part of me is wondering why I should even bother trying to make this work. But my daughter ADORES him (she never met her "real" dad) which isn't making this any easier for me.
I'm sure you can imagine how betrayed and absolutely crushed I feel right now. Is it worth trying to work through all this?
Cheated On
Dear Cheated,
I have one question for you: do you love this man? Because you don’t really sound like you do. You sound pissed and you sound disgusted. You sound as if your pride is hurt, but you do not sound as if you especially love this guy.
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1 - libby
why do guys like to cheat on there girlfriend when they arer nice a better than they pick the next time
2 - Mercedes
My boyfriend goes to another school right? So one day he was leaving my house and his phone rung he said it was his cousin then he said it was his friend but it was a girl. So when i looked at the phone it said a letter and not the whole name and so he was like his friend be calling him from the number.So i told him to call the number and he just busted out and asked the girl do they talk and she said no so i called the girl when he left and she was like she knew it was sum cus he neva came to her like that.So she called him on the other end and he was talking bad about me(if he loved me then y would he do such thing) SO me n the girk end my cousins mey up wit her wit him in the car n when he looked he started cursin me out and stuff, So we broke up n got back 2gether he said they was jus cool n he wasnt go talk 2 her anymore.2
days later i road pass his house n her car was in the yard so i got out the car n he scooted down n da seat i told him 2 get out the car he refused so i told him if he didnt it would be ova n he said so. He finally got out da car only because da girl told him 2.What do u guys think is he talkin 2 her?