Dear Elsa,
I have a dear friend who seems to get upset over the smallest things. She makes me feel awful if I do something else with other mutual friends and not include her. I am starting to pull away from her, because she makes it harder and harder for me to enjoy being around her.
The group of friends we hang around are all within 5 minutes of each other. Our spouses get along great, as do the women. Our kids though, do not get along very well (they range in age from 4 to 12). The friend who I am having an issue with also takes it very personally when the children don't get along. Plus she always seems to take her children’s side.
I guess what I am getting at is, is this friendship over? I really like this friend... and her husband and mine get along very well. I just feel like I am always on eggshells. Any advice?
Angsty Mom
Dear Mom,
Yes I have advice, and no I don’t think the friendship is over. If it were over, you’d know it. But you are calling this woman a “dear friend.” You say you like her a lot. That’s a high compliment and tells me the relationship is very much worth salvaging.
Now I acknowledge her annoying behavior, but there is no deal-breaker in there. You know. She didn’t screw your husband, betray you, burn your house down, etc. She is flawed and that’s all. She’s not perfect, but neither are you, so how about we look at your side of this conflict?
You’re a Virgo, with Venus in Virgo. I guess you’ve heard about Virgo nit-picking, yes? And Virgo fault-finding? Well your posts reads like this. You have discovered this woman’s faults and you can itemize them.
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