It is much easier to get into an abusive relationship than to get out of one. Everything from fear of retaliation to feeling helpless can make it difficult for a victim of abuse to sever ties with their abuser.
Unemployment, underemployment, codependency, and not wanting the children to suffer (though they probably already are!) can also discourage the victim from just walking away. Even worst, the pernicious prospect of being publicly humiliated or perhaps even murdered by their abuser can simply paralyze the victim.
Such are compelling reasons to avoid an abusive relationship altogether or stand ready to swiftly exit it, if you find yourself in one. However, as many victims of abuse will tell you, wanting to be strong and sagacious in this manner is not as much a challenge as finding the actual will-power and wherewithal to do so.
Therefore, I would like to impart to you invaluable insights that can help you steer clear of an abusive relationship or from staying in one. I urge you to take to heart what you are about to read because it will be useful to you regardless of your gender. Besides, your abuser's first or next act of aggression may just be one from which you cannot recover.
Eluding or escaping an abusive relationship begins with you rejecting the idea that "it's a thin line between love and hate." Not only are love and hate separate and distinct ways of viewing and treating people; the "line" between these attitudes and approaches to people and relationships is as vast as the universe itself.
It is not love that drives someone to hurt you. It is not love that compels someone to attempt to control you. Much to the contrary, love brings out the best in us even during the worst of times and provides us with motivation and a manner of making the most of whatever moments we share. If your partner claims to love you, it is only fitting that they follow-up that declaration by doing things that build you up rather than tear you down.
You will not tolerate abuse if you truly believe that your own health and happiness are more important than having a wife, husband, or honey. You are just as significant as your significant other, and a diminished you is detrimental to you, your relationships, and every good thing you desire. Love yourself enough to liberate yourself from such a need for acceptance that you lose yourself in gaining it. Love yourself and others by doing what, first, is best for you.