When a man loses all desire for physical affection, he incurs losses for everyone else in his life.
A good friend of mine recently confided that her husband had lost all of his desire for physical affection, from holding hands in public to lovemaking. I knew he was distant and brooding and I had my suspicions about their love life because of hints she'd dropped over the years. But I didn't know it was this bad. It's been a dark and lonely road for her; a road she is convinced she travels alone. It was her sense that no one else had a marriage like hers that kept her from sharing sooner.…
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176 - eureka
As for my situation, my husband and I haven't had sex for more than 4 years.
I don't regret that I stopped having sex with him. Instead it made me happy because I did it with him, I never felt happy. I don't know why. We're still married but I don't feel like having sex with him at all for many more reasons. One of them is he digs his nose and scratches his bums infront of me vigorously.
I don't know how is he fulfilling his sexual desires or whether is a saint, but as for me, I've become totally celibate since the day. I felt very lonely at first, but that loneliness has made me even more stronger.
I have kept lots of hobbies and have lots of friends to keep me busy. And it's working.
177 - Amy
My husband has only had sex and intimacy with me once in over 45 years. The one time we had sex was on our wedding night and that lasted maybe 15 minutes. The rest of the evening he sat out by the pool of our hotel. We had no honey moon he refused to go. I was confused and lonely and at the time only had sex the one time. Little did I know that I would never experience it again. He moved all his things down to the basement and told me to leave him alone and don't talk to me. I have the upstairs sort of like apartment living. I began to hear him go out around 10 pm every night and I thought he had something on the side , I followed him a few times but he was going to work, he transfered himself to the midnight shift. I was totally alone, I cryed sometimes all night. I tryed to leave him but couldn't afford it and my folks didn't want me back home, they had there own problems.Being lonely and insecure is a terrble feeling. I was stuck but we never had enough money for me to leave him. So here it is over 45 years later I'm still here, still don't know what went wrong or when. My life has been a waste and I pray every evening that GOD will take me away.
178 - Christopher Rose
Amy, your story is so upsetting I wish there was something I could do to help you.
Please know that this situation is absolutely not your fault and that it is never to late to change your life situation if you want to.
I don't believe in gods but if they did exist I hope they wouldn't want to see you just yet and I really hope you find the courage to improve your life.