Uncle. Grandfather. Father.
I write a thousand words where three would suffice. He is dead. When it comes to thinking about my father who died when I was a boy it is a subject that I return to again and again. He is my life's greatest mystery, and as he is dead I can explore him only in the manuscript of my mind.
In other words, sometimes a death can impact as greatly as a life and sometimes when you didn't really know the person you can spend your own days trying to make a connection. That's what usually happens with celebrities. Exceptions such as admiring qualities from authors, singers other than physical beauty, can be made. I'm under the impression it's better when you you're aware of that.
John Spencer, the actor who played Bartlet's chief of staff in the West Wing died Friday of a heart attack. He was still very much a part of the storyline - as a vp candidate. I was just incredibly sad on hearing the news; beyond proportion for a man I'd never met. One I didn't really know. Screw that, didn't know at all. His was a life interrupted. At 58 he was still young and looked younger.
Richard Pryor passed away; he meant a lot more to people older than I - who lived the years I'm living now - when he was at his most alive and when he had an impact on his times.
Many famous people died this year; many more less fanous people died this year and many more of those had a more local impact on the small or smaller neighborhoods around them.
Let us hope you had closer connection to the friends and family members of yours who died.
Perhaps you can take a deep breath and share of those you knew and those who were close only to you. Perhaps, like the family of a 5-year-old cancer victim I knew briefly, death is a welcome occasion; they knew he would die but they believed he was in a much happier place. If I recall correctly, he died on Christmas Day.
Perhaps the death happened 39, 49, 15 years ago and you can't stop yourself asking "What if?"
Others who died in 2005 include more than a 1,000 soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan, 200,000 regular people in the Indian Ocean tsunami, 1,800 as a result of Hurricane Katrina.
AAA ::: world's oldest woman Hendrikje van Andel-Schipper, age 115 years, 2 months and 1 day, gay rights activist Wanda Alston, matriarch Carmen Allen, 89, Alfred Anderson, 109; last survivor to witness spontaneous "Christmas Truce" of 1914, journalist Jack Anderson, actor Don Adams, crash test dummy inventor Samuel W. Alderson.