Sensible advice but in freakin' DEBONAIR? I was clearly floored. The magazine had degenerated into the worst kind of crap. The editors of the magazine were clearly trying to make it snazzy like Maxim by featuring cars and electronics along with supposedly hot babes and yet keep the moralistic humbugs happy by the auntyji advice.
I found myself picking holes in article after article. For example, any sexually active person knows that after doggie-style penetration vaginal penetration is a no-no for health reasons. But the author of the article, "Seducing A Woman In Style," seemed to be a porno fantasy trip of his own when he wrote the article,
So next time you and your girl are about to have sex: Turn her around, hold her wrists behind her back with one hand, and wrap your other hand around her hair, lightly pull her. Penetrate her doggie style. After a few minutes turn her around, place a hand over her neck and penetrate her frantically in the missionary position until you are done.I nearly burst out laughing as I read that section but what came out was a hiccup. I folded the magazine within my Outlook magazine, paid for it and exited.
On leafing through the magazine at home, I felt bad for the Debonair guys - the babes in the magazine were complete sad sacks and the magazine lacked overall gloss and style. It is no wonder that Indian "racy" mags are doing so badly, lack of funds, lack of good models, the morality watchdogs breathing down their backs and stiff competition for filmy mags with hot stars dressed far skimpier than their two-cent models or beauty queens.
Maybe it's all for the best that Playboy without a desi version has not made an entry yet into the Indian scene; these guys and their likes would be wiped out.
Article comments
1 - Ruvy in Jerusalem
Great article, SP.
Hope you feel comfortable back home... Do I sense hints of criticism under the pleasure?
Israeli magazines have flashy models and the like, but Jewish society, no matter how much you try to jazz it up with the outsider's bullshit, is still Jewish society. The same may be true in India.
We used to have one bang up intelligence service. Nothing could beat the Shin Bet. Period. Now, they're a bunch of clowns. You guys came out with that fantastic sex manual centuries ago, if not millennia ago. But things may have changed... Something to for you to ponder.
2 - deepti lamba
Ruvy, I'm suffering from bit of a reverse culture shock. Some things have become better and others remain chaotic.
My own reaction to the glaring gap between the rich and the poor took me by surprise as I am, afterall, an Indian and was used to the chasms in our society but this time round the teeming masses, the noise, the constant activities, color and the massive traffic jams jarred my senses.
Relocation is never easy but I'm sure it will be a matter of time before I will become part of the masses:)
3 - Ruvy in Jerusalem
Deepti,
The one thing about America that I really miss - aside from Oreos and M&M's being cheap - is the reliability of the society created there. Things happen on time and in order. There is no such orderliness in this country, and I suspect the same is true in your homeland.
Could it be this that has you so jarred?
Best,
4 - anonymous
Deepti,
Your article is interesting and bold. But to my surprise I was completely unaware of the fact quoted by you in this article.
Do you have the technical explaination as to why "doggie-style penetration after vaginal penetration is a no-no for health reasons".
I hope your answer will help others too..
5 - piyush
deepti,
my applauds for a well written article.but i just wish you'd kept men's desires in mind before penning it down. the example quoted by you indicates some ignorance on your part when it comes to sex.
doggie-style penetration, by all means is vaginal-pentration only.its only that the position differs.refer kamasutra for more.hence that was a seductive way given over there.
anyways...overall nice views.my admiration for the same.
6 - Rashid Tanweer
I wonder, why the freedom of speech occur to the world, when it came to the girl naked. Nakedness of girls, in accordance with historical facts, just like femenism is because of the men's own interests, hence giving it the name freedom.
What freedom would be there in the society, if they torch bearers of freedom of speech would be giving us the nude pics, but put us in jail when someone would try to rape their sisters.
Or when someone would like to have a relationship with their own daughters. WHy would not the world have thought of the idea like this kind of freedom before 1850s. While they can think of socialism and democracy and making men busy in industry or cultivation since more than 1000 BC.
This is just an excuse of men's madened sickness to keep their eyes cool. Do let me know if you have found Hef Hughner's daughter posing for play boy. NEVER, you see. Thats why these freedom bearers are hippocrites.
For the puer rule of thumb, any mind that can think can easily draw conclusion that
"The more freedom of self expression the more anarchy it will create".
Hence we have a concept of LAW.
The more strictness of law there is, the more civilized we would be.
Now dont you givge me example of America, they might have been industrialists, Capitalists, but also they are murderous barbarians. And it can be seem throught the American History, strating from the War against Native Americans, to Hiroshima to Russia to Afghanistan, and finally Iraq. And now they are looking towards Iran. WHat more examples would you be needing for freedom of expression changing into a Mass destruction.
This and other such things are bullshit, THe thing of need is to realize the importance of Law. Read Kant's theory and try to look into yourselves. Rather than thinking about other women nude, you should be looking for covering and protecting others.
Freedom of speech and expression, is nothing but a delusion. How many women dop you think would be proud of their nakedness, if they were not given a million dollars for posing nude.
Its all just a crap. No weightage, historically and by nature, we humans are here to invent, to rule, to live among animals to prove that we are different from them. Not to pose nude and prove that that girl's ass is perfect and to fantacize and corrupt our Mind with such garbage.
Think.
7 - rohit
it appears your knowledge on sex is quite dim... doggie-style sex doesn't necessarily mean anal penetration. In fact usually it doesn't. The article in debonair was therefore correct.
8 - S Vyas
I believe. Just as your opinion may be right does not mean that the Moral Bandwagon is wrong. All people have a right pf speech and action. This varies from Culture to Culture. A striptease may be common place is US but in India its a strictly unthinkable. Pros and Cons. Lots. Arguable. Endless. Such things thus are best kept untouched.
9 - KMPSINGH
i have many collection to debonair magazine to 1972 -2009.