I love the term WWWJA - What Weight Would Jesus Admit? Is that original or did someone else make it up? Either way I love it. Can you elaborate on how such a term came about regarding the admissions and lies people make about their age, height and weight?
I made it up. Glad you like it.
Given that Nerve and Friendship have changed ownership and quality has been reduced, what site would you would suggest someone use now? Or does it depend on their status and interests?
I'd still stick with what is now called fastcupid (formerly nerve), but I also praise OKCupid for being free and smart. One called MatchActivity has a good gimmick, you list what things you like to do, and they match you by that.
Why do so many people lie in their online ads?
Because we're all insecure and because gaming the system is the American way.
Finally, I'm going to end the interview with an excerpt of your summary of what you learned. Feel free to add anything to it:
- 1) Disregard all pressure to present yourself as you are not. People resent those they lie or conform to, so be yourself
2) Only use sites that let you search the profiles and contact who you want. The scientific matching is a crock and keeps you from learning about what you want. Most important.
3) Stay connected to the people you already care about. Don't let the virtual world and marriage fantasies and the fear-of-ending-up-alone industry carry you out of your real life.
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Thanks again, Virginia, for your cooperation.
Next up, relationship book-wise, is a review and interview of Dating Up.
Article comments
1 - Dennis Harnisch
Scott - once again your article was feed to my notice box from Google alerts.
My personal experience with IM was not really for my type of character.
But I did meet my Bride online which resulted in our happy marriage of 3 years now - BUT it took almost 3 years of persistent trial and error on my part surfing through all the women that I met online!
My wife? - - it was easy for her - I was the first online guy she met!
2 - Scott Butki
Ha. Easy work for her, less so for you, eh?
3 - sewdough
YES! She is right on the money. Online daters should communicate often for a short period of time and then meet as soon as possible thereafter. Find out if the chemistry is right quickly - if it's not move on!