Caregiving can destroy people and marriages. Part of that destruction comes from not giving ourselves permission to have our true feelings. It's okay to be angry, or disappointed, or repelled when we know what to do about those feelings. Even at the end of a husband's life, and in the midst of great suffering and sorrow, there's a path we can follow to deepen our relationship, find mutual compassion, and arrive at a place of profound understanding and love. While we cannot avoid the fact that our husband is going to die, rather than having a negative experience resulting in irreparable damage and regret, a wife and her husband may acquire tools to get through their challenges, and can create a far different outcome. The possibility is that both we and our husbands can make it through these challenges, including the death itself, emotionally whole and with compassion for ourselves and for each other.