What starts to happen here is that Fear has less and less room to grow. If I say, "I want to make a million dollars this year," I add a stress that colors everything I do. I start to view what I do in terms of money, my clients in terms of money, my time in terms of the money it will or will not bring me, other coaches as a threat to my piece of the pie—I start to compete.
That is Fear and it's creepy. It's Fear that I won't make my goal, I'll be without... whatever.
But if I say, I want to bring more love and goodness and creativity to the world, that is going to guide how I am with EVERYONE. Client or not, people who give me money in exchange for my services and those who do not. I will treat myself better, there will be more of me to give as a result and my world, including but not limited to, my business will thrive.
If I say, "I want to lose 15 pounds," I start to fear food. I deprive myself, feel constricted, get discouraged, and get stressed when the holiday goodies surround me. If I come from a perspective of making loving choices for myself, it will be a lot easier to engage in moderation. I'll allow myself treats without being upset that I have "blown my diet."
A lifestyle guided by loving, healthy choices will get you where you want to go.
So, I invite you to join me. Design your own experiment. Set aside your goals and reflect on the values you hold most dear. Let those values guide the actions of your day—at work, at home, in your private times. Consider what could be accomplished on the part of humanity if we each committed to living a life based on Love rather than Fear?
Laura Young/Wellspring Coaching
Laura's blog
Edited: PC
Article comments
1 - Orin
Totally Awesome! I came to this perspective indirectly by reading a book called "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck. The concept has changed my life...and I'm glad you discovered it too! I'm going to link everybody to this entry for inspiration. :)
2 - Laura Young
Thanks, Orin! The Road Less Travelled is certainly a classic. Tell everyone to feel free to jump in on the conversation! I'm knee deep in this topic here and neck deep at my blog so if you'd like to keep kicking this around and invite more people to the party, there is definitely a place to play!
3 - DrPat
Peck's book is certainly worth reading, and I recommend it all the time to younger friends. His perspective is less approachable, I think, once you've got a certain amount of anno domini behind you...
4 - Sebastian
Thanks for sharing this article Laura, its a bit of synchronicity here as Buckminster Fuller made an impact on me back in grade school and also at this point in my life I'm reading things such as TRLT and trying to beat a depression and am constantly on the search for more meaning. Great stuff on your home blog as well. Take care!!
5 - Laura Young
Thanks, Sebastian! Glad to have you joining in on the search.
Dr. Pat, loving the "certain amount of anno domini behind you". I'll have to use that...
6 - BreccasDad
I've read lots about Fuller. My dad knew Bucky Fuller personally. He is the most amazing man of the 20th Century. And if more people took stock in what he says about Spaceship Earth, we would not be in the situation we have today with the energy crisis, and the middle east. Read his stuff, and be enlightened.
7 - Laura Young
How did you dad get to know him? How cool is that? You must have had some very interesting discussions. Would love to hear more!
8 - David V.
I am delighted to see that Bucky is still being read. I highly encourage anyone that appreciated Laura's findings to pick up "Utopia or Oblivion" or "Operating Instructions for Spaceship Earth". Bucky lays it all out for us. I particularly like that Bucky challenges our 'money motivations' and offers us a different choice- to be motivated by what will be best for the world around us, what will advance humanity.
He was a brilliant thinker.