Dr. Lee A. Bowers Divorce-Proof Your Marriage Before You Say I Do is a must-read for all couples who are about to get married. Many couples get married without knowing their partners sufficiently. This is probably why we currently have such a high divorce rate.
Dr. Bowers believes that all marriages are challenging in some way or another. And because of this, we should know quite a few things about our partner before we get married, such as his/her idiosyncrasies, whether (s)he wants children and pets, what his/her core values are, and his/her style of communication. We must only marry someone we think we could be compatible with for a lifetime.
Also, we must be able to talk to our future partner about important things that bother us in the partner. Open, honest communication goes a long way towards solving most problems in marriage, as does each partner’s ability to compromise his/her needs and wants to those of his/her partner at least to some degree. In fact, without compromise, many marriages end in divorce. So, the tips Dr. Bowers outlines in her book are essential in divorce-proofing your marriage.
This book could be used as a resource in all marriage preparation and encounter courses. Dr. Bowers does a great job outlining some of the essential points of contention between couples. This book will also be relevant to couples who are planning to get married or couples who need help to make their marriages better. I think it is also a book that is relevant to couples whose marriage is in trouble. Reading Dr. Bowers’ book should save many a troubled marriage from divorce if it is taken to heart.