The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn’t, What Shouldn’t Make You Happy, But Does by Sonja Lyubomirsky is an interesting work which challenges traditional assumptions about happiness. The author explains that each of us acts upon intuition and varying degrees of reason in order to make decisions.
Lyubomirsky explains a complex concept called hedonic adaptation wherein people tend to adapt to new phenomena by shear resilience. The author warns against unrealistic expectations because this is averse to happiness.
Simple examples of these unreal expectations are provided. For instance, a person may believe that happiness can come from money and possessions solely. Once money is attained, unhappiness may follow.
The author believes that happiness follows from family and having good relationships. Ultimately, experiences make us happy and not things or possessions. At bottom, people are social beings.
There is another route to happiness and contentment through constructive endeavors, hobbies, and recreation. Lyubonirsky believes that deep appreciation gained via quality relationships is needed to get maximum satisfaction. In addition, variety and surprise are equally important in life.
The Myths of Happiness is an enlightening book which teaches how to develop a constructive perspective for enjoying the process of life during our finite time on earth. This book has important advice for people in every age group.Powered by Sidelines