The Daughter-in-Law Rules: 101 Surefire Ways to Manage (and Make Friends with) Your Mother-in-Law!, by Sally Shields, takes a wry look at the often messy and complicated relationships created upon marrying the love of one's life. How does the author know this? Easy. Once she was bethrothed, she found out difficulties were not far around the corner. This was hardly the kind of trouble where an issue was completely intolerable.
However, Shields also had a husband who became concerned about his two most important women getting along. More than once, he told his wife she might not have a relationship with him if the differences could not be worked out. Some women might have suggested up a wedding means first responsibility isn't to one's parents. Instead, Shields decided to take a hard look at herself and see if perhaps the issues were on her side.
The result led to the creating of DIL Rules.
Any member of the female species is going to be able to relate to both the tips and stories within. Granted, they were designed for the marital life. The relationship between two once they legally become one is unique. Still. Most people, though, are going to run into problems along the way when it comes to others.
One rule which caught my attention was #36. It requests the bride make the bed each time she (and presumably hubby) stays over at the inlaws. Not only does this take less than five minutes, it's courteous. The inlaws are certainly not owners of a bed and breakfast. What Shields omitted mentioning was how to handle the sheets once the stay is complete. Does one leave in a heap at the foot, or carry them to the laundry room? I suppose the discussion is settled upon arrival.
At any rate, this book has something for everyone. It goes from being a newlywed to the point where a child enters the picture. Yes, it's meant for the married woman. The tips to satisfying relationships work, though.
A portion of the proceeds from the sale of this book will be sent to "Much Love", an organization fighting to prevent overpopulation and the abuse and neglect of domestic animals. Several celebrities support this project, including Charlize Theron, Drew Barrymore, Johnny Depp, and Kevin Nealon. For more information or to make a donation, go to the website Much Love.