Shallow Love by Gregory Nicholas Malouf is an important book which explains how our thoughts impact the people around us and what we can do to improve human relationships for everyone within our milieu.
Malouf explains that each of us needs to forgive ourselves, seek out the origin of our fears and learn to share with others around us. At bottom, we do not face the past to relive it. We face the past to forgive it.
Malouf explains that we are holding on to guilt whenever we attack, try to control, criticize or judge other people. Projecting guilt is how we hold onto unresolved emotional issues.
According to the author, guilt originates from past hurts, traumas or unresolved issues. Generally speaking, people don’t regret their successes. They regret failures by projecting guilt outward to others.
The book explains how to remove guilt from our lives by recognizing that we are all equal, nurturing ourselves and setting healthy boundaries. The author explains that each of us is taught to question love while accepting fear. Quite the converse is true.
We should accept love unconditionally and learn to question our fears. Only then will each of us get a release from the fears that consume us.
Malouf explains the process for releasing us from our fears. First, we must become more aware of our feelings and behaviors. Next, each of us must be willing to face the facts which are at the heart of our reality. Lastly, we must act with courage and a quiet acceptance of things we cannot change. At bottom, we must learn to choose our thoughts wisely and learn to drop negative feelings.
Shallow Love is an important book on how to learn to live with ourselves more confidently. The book emphasizes the power of love over interminable negativity in human relations.
Everyone should read this book in order to redirect life’s efforts more constructively. Only we can get an internal release from pain. Medical people can help in the search for inner wellness. Ultimately, we must take the initial steps which lead to feeling better about ourselves and the others around us.
Malouf explains these concepts in a step-by-step fashion beginning with the hurts and ending with the learning experiences that are requisite to resolving our negativities permanently.