It’s Hard Not to Hate You is a funny memoir by Valerie Frankel. It offers us stories on love, friendship, family, and dealing with people who are not easy to be around. When she is faced with health issues, Valerie’s doctor tells her she has to ease her stress. She realizes that for too many years she has held in her negative feelings and now that they are about to boil over and make her sick she is letting them out. Oh boy, they certainly do come tumbling out and in very funny ways.
I have to admit that the chapter “How to Hate the Man You Love” was for me beyond funny. A condensed quote from that chapter contends that “Any wife should hate a husband who is caught with a hooker, cheats with every stripper or Nazi pinup he meets, is a co-dependent, unrepentant addict, lies about his identity, or plots murder to replace you with a younger model.”
And she doesn’t stop her hating there. She goes on to name even more husbands who should be hated and why. Now I can honestly say I love my husband and he does not fall into any of these categories (well maybe loud chewer) but I sure did get a good laugh out of reading about these losers.
She did not just pick on husbands or men, she talks about her feelings regarding those “mean girls” in school, “so called friends,” snobby neighbors, and so much more!
I am glad that Ms. Frankel is doing better now and is less stressed. She found out that expressing these negative emotions is much better than holding them in, much healthier as well. I really hope all of the people in the book who drove the author crazy and contributed in any small way to her writing of this book read it!
I know that any reader who picks up this book will find a connection to at least one of these stories. Starts out a bit slow but picks up as you read — then I dare you to put it down.
Read more about the author at her website: Valerie Frankel’s Palace of Love
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