Janet Blair Page’s Get Married This Year is a great book for people who are looking for that perfect mate. It is very difficult to find Mr. or Mrs. Right these days. Page makes this process much more possible and less scary. But the process really starts with us and not our future mates.
Although the book is written from a female perspective, I think the book could also be used by men who are looking for the right spouse. The book is divided into 12 chapters which ideally should be read one chapter a month and mastered so that the reader could be ready to get married to a loving, caring, and compatible spouse within a year.
One of the first roadblocks to finding a loving and caring mate is our past and family background. Many of us are harbouring so many different difficulties and psychological ailments which we need to de-clutter before we can most openly invite a new person into our lives. We tend to look for familiar characteristics in a future mate. This can be a recipe for disaster, especially if one of our future spouses resembles one of our parents! This is a very common difficulty that individuals must come to terms with so that they could find the right mate.
Before we start dating to find our ideal mate, we must work on our self-esteem and feel good about ourselves. We must accept ourselves and love ourselves unconditionally. If we don’t love ourselves, how can anyone else? Also, if we don’t care about ourselves sufficiently, and have a proper relationship with ourselves, we won’t be able to have a loving relationship with anyone else either. We will simply appear needy and our relationship with be unhealthy for both people concerned.
So much goes into developing a lifelong relationship with a potential mate and spouse. Page lays out the foundation in this wonderful book which will transform anyone’s dating scene, if only readers follow the advice that she lays out.
I absolutely loved the book. I wish I read this book when I started dating. I certainly would have dated very different men and perhaps even married a very different partner. So, I urge everyone reading this review to take the time to read this book, and to take Page’s advice to heart. It could change our lives.Powered by Sidelines