Anger Mastery: Get Angry, Get Happy by Kevin B. Burk teaches how to put aside the major distractions in life long enough to take control and lead a happier existence. Examples of major distractions are victimization, the pain of loss, uncontrollable circumstances, and many events that confuse people and deprive them of badly needed focus on more important agenda items.
Burk explains that mastering anger helps protect against manipulation by other people. Part of mastering anger is channeling energy into activities that are creative and supportive of your strengths and purpose in life. One such activity is gymnastics.
The lowest ebb of life is victimization according to Burk. Here people tend to have an eternal pity party with all of the classic escape habits like drinking, overeating, gambling, and other activities that drain health and financial resources. Hallmarks of the victimization state are pride, anger, desire, fear, grief, apathy, hopelessness, rejection, guilt, and shame.
The next highest level is constructive activity where people actually do things and enjoy the benefits of their hard work. Neutrality, willingness, acceptance
After that comes the spiritual state where things are accomplished through your efforts and influence. Love, joy, and peace are the universals in the spiritual state. The last and highest state is the enlightenment where things are done in your name or persona. An example would be The Civil Rights Movement.
Burk spends a lot of time rationalizing how to leave the victimization state systematically. He actually illustrates, with a flowchart, the decision-making process by disaggregating your personal business from activities that are the concern of other people. If something does not concern you personally, then all of your activities should be directed elsewhere to things that involve you directly. Examples of these things are your family, home, career, finances etc.
Anger Mastery is an important work in the psychology of coping with life logically and systematically. The author forces each of us to separate the important things in life from things that really don’t concern us directly. In achieving the separation, we learn to let go of chronic conflicts which drain our energies while providing little financial or psychic compensation in return for the effort expended. Everyone should read this book and become familiar with the methodology set forth by Burk.Powered by Sidelines