After giving Abuse & Betrayal: The Cautionary True Story of Divorce, Mistakes, Lies and Legal Abuse by Richard Joseph some thought, I realized that this situation is far too common of an event to go unspoken. This may sound harsh, but it is the truth as I see it about this book. At first I thought the author was playing the victim as he wrote out his story, yet I found myself not able to put the book down. Before I finished I was wondering if Richard would wake up to how this happened to him. It was like he had one eye open and the other closed. And yes, he understood much more prior to the writing of his book. I only wished he would have disclosed that piece of information earlier in the book.
Life has no coincidences. I have not been able to stop thinking about the book for several days now. I feel like I know this man because of his honesty in the telling of his story. A friend is going through the exact kind experience with her teenage daughter while her ex-husband is using the courts to fuel the problem. What seems like a normal problem between a teenage girl and her mother that could have been worked out, instead turns into a nightmare endorsed by the courts and the father’s hand!
I had forgotten that long ago I had a very similar experience, and although the details are not exactly the same, it also involved bullying from the legal system that is supposed to protect us in the first place. There are many times when the courts need to protect victims of domestic abuse. This story is certainly one of those times.
So here is a father, Richard Joseph, who genuinely loves his children, probably more than he loves himself. In his attempt to do everything possible to keep the boat from rocking he instead creates the perfect storm. Loving our children and being willing to do anything for them is like a double edged sword, and it can hurt. My heart goes out to this author, and I am grateful that he has had the courage to tell his story, as so many do not.
My hopes are that this family will be repaired as time goes on, and I feel like being positive can help to open the doors for that to happen. I would recommend this to anyone thinking of getting a divorce, especially if there are children involved. Fighting for property is one thing; fighting for the family is quite another. I believe this book can be a very helpful resource and guide of what not to do when going through or contemplating divorce.Powered by Sidelines