Arguments are often dreaded, feared, and avoided. This is because many people lack the skills to resolve conflict and differences through conversation — not because all arguments are useless or harmful. When participants manage their emotions and build rationality and respect into their beliefs, arguments are an effective way to understand and work through differences. Countless people struggle to have constructive arguments and seek tips and tricks to help resolve and prevent them.
Call them discussions, disagreements, debates, or fights — by any other name an argument means that two or more people have a misunderstanding or a difference of opinion about something. Typically, the word we use for an adversarial communication process is rooted in our past experience, comfort level, and feelings about being at odds with someone. Arguments between couples, where the goal is no longer to resolve an issue, transform into intense power struggles and become unproductive creating high conflict.
Significant marital and family differences that go unresolved (and without a healthy argument process) settle into long term battles over ‘being right’ and proving it. Argumentative marital partners, relatives, and parents struggling with constant arguments with teens can seek guidance through self-help sites that can be found on the blogosphere.