You’re typing away inside your cubicle when your narcissistic co-worker waltzes in and brags about his most recent sexual conquests (plural) over the weekend.
What do you do?
It can be very difficult to be around a narcissist. Unfortunately, if you’re around one at work or your neighborhood, you’re stuck with him or her. More people in our society are displaying narcissistic traits in part because the press and social media celebrate “selfies” and every other form of self-promotion.
Why is this bad?
Excessive self-promotion screams insecurity. If you’re truly happy with your life, you’re probably too busy cherishing the small special moments instead of frantically pulling out your iPhone so you can self-publish the sugary dessert the restaurant waiter just delivered to your table.
One or two generations ago, Americans emphasized service to their country and local communities. We were inspired to join the Peace Corps, military service, or local church.
In previous generations people felt they belonged to a larger group, and they served causes larger than themselves. Putting a man on the moon was not about trying to become the most famous human in history; it was about making a giant leap on behalf of all mankind.
How times have changed.
Before, we wanted to help others. Now it seems we’re more interested in advancing petty interests, such as social fame, Twitter swag, and Facebook reputations.
The “me first” culture prioritizes the self.
Thus, employees constantly remain vigilant about their salaries and bonuses, and how they rank against colleagues. Instead of serving others and improving the institutions to which we belong, it’s now all about who drives the fanciest cars, who has the trophy girlfriend, and who earns the most medals.
According to psychologists, narcissists lack empathy and are often control freaks. Instead of acting like humans, they are more like programmed robots acting out their childhood neglect or abuse.
Hyper-Narcissism and Selfies
Social media has put our “me first” society on steroids.
Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram encourage us to toot our own horns – to brag about our new shoes, to post images of fancy meals, and to upload videos of expensive vacations.
We selectively micro-publish about the pleasant aspects of our lives (leaving the bad parts out) to feel good about ourselves.
The next time your co-worker brags about how much he enjoyed his weekend – and before you silently criticize him, ask yourself if he’s the only narcissist inside your cubicle.Powered by Sidelines