Somewhere I heard a parent telling an adopted child that if anyone ever teased them about being adopted they should reply "Well my parents chose me and yours had to take you whether they wanted to or not." That not be quite how it goes, but you get the drift — it was an attempt to make the child feel wanted. Of course the flip side to that is somewhere along the line someone didn't want that child and gave him or her up.

There are numerous reasons why a woman might give a child up for adoption, and to be perfectly honest, I think that anybody who has the slightest doubts about their desire to be a parent should be encouraged to put their child up for adoption. The last thing the world needs is another parent ambivalent enough about their child that they will neglect or abuse him or her. Yet I wonder how I would feel if I found out that the woman who originally gave birth to me hadn't wanted me? Would I be able to be as understanding as my opinions, or would I fell abandoned and betrayed because this person was supposed to have loved me?

What would you do if you had been put up for adoption and now as an adult find out that your birth mother wants to meet you? Would you wonder why, after all these years, she should all of a sudden desire to get to know you? She's had nothing to do with raising or taking care of you and has no claim to your affections and now all of sudden she wants to meet you. How would that make you feel and what emotions would that dredge up? Would you meet her?

April Epner is having a difficult time; her husband has just left her, her mother died, and her birth mother has sent her a letter asking if she can meet her. As an added complication she's thirty-nine years old and not only hears her biological clock ticking but feels like its battery is running down and fast. This is the reality we are asked to enter into within the first half hour of Then She Found Me, now available on DVD and Blu-ray through Image Entertainment. With an opening like that, there's usually only one or two directions a movie will take: it will either play it for laughs or heart warming and sentimental. If they're really daring, they might even try to combine the two. Then She Found Me turns out not to be your usual movie and travels in a direction that is completely unexpected, and is all the better for it.