Once, a 75-year-old guy called me and said, "Dr. Gray, I've been working all my **** life. Why am I broke and you're rich? I've been working hard. Everybody says if I work hard, I'd be successful." 

"Oh, no, sir. You've never heard me say that. I believe it's about finding what God put you here to do."

He said, "I know what God put me here to do. I'm a singer." 

I said, "All right. Well, sing." He started to sing. I listened. I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I said, "You're not a singer. That's not what God put you here to do." 

If you want to find what God put you here to do, ask yourself three questions. First question: What comes easy to you but harder to other people? The second question is: What would you do for years and never have to get paid for it? Third, ask yourself: How can you be of service? 

Once you answer those three questions, your work will become your play. You'll never have to "work hard" another day of your life because you'll love what you're doing. The world and the marketplace will open up for you, your gifts, and your talents. The guy who called me became a painter after asking himself those three questions - eventually selling one of his paintings for almost $5,000. That's what he was here to do. He wasn't the kind of artist he thought he was. So it's very important to find what God put you here to do.

That is a lesson I am still growing into. What lessons are you still learning? In the introduction of Get Real, Get Rich you state, "We are all students of life until the lights go out on us."

Patience. Being an impatient person, I wanted to do what my grandmother said: "Do as much as you can as fast as you can; be as productive as possible." But you must be patient. So I have struggled to balance patience with being an impatient person, and trying to find a happy medium. I also believe that my personal mission in life is to grow and contribute, so I am learning and growing every day.

Going back to the "work hard" lie in your previous question: Dr. Deepak Chopra talks about the law of least effort. Sometimes you're pushing and what you want to do is not coming with ease; doors are not opening. A lot of times we're pushing against resistance. If one looks closely, there is often a message in that resistance: "Wait a minute, maybe it's not what you're supposed to be doing." Bottom line is, if you want to know the difference between good resistance and bad resistance, decipher skill versus desire. If you want to be a basketball player, yet you shoot bricks, it's not going to happen. 

You say everything we want is on the other side of fear. How do you combat fear?