Life, the Death Penalty, and Child Abuse
Published June 28, 2008
I don’t think there is an answer as to why most of us who were molested do not go on to be abusers ourselves. Don’t think we aren’t undamaged. A goodly many go on to become drug addicts; alcoholics, or engage in very risky sex practices. If you conduct a study of the younger (very much younger) prostitutes who are walking the streets of this country, you will find that most of them had been molested or raped by someone who should be protecting their innocence.
Child molesters come from a background of multi-generational abuse. Unless the abuse is stopped, and it rarely is, the child who is molested from a multi-generational background of abuse is going to go on to abuse children, often their own. And their children will go on to do the same thing. Capital punishment isn’t going to stop the multi-generational abuse.
The only reason I do not ‘out’ the person who molested me is because of his son, who was a friend of mine in the third grade. . The multi-generational history of abuse was ended with the son. The abusive father is now dead, thank heaven. His abuse is dead. His son is now a very well known spokesperson for the abused child and for intervention. I cannot divulge his name and hurt him any further.
BUT – if the person who had molested me, this man’s father, had been put to death for what he did to me, the son would never have sought help. The horror would have been visited upon yet another generation. Quit demanding retribution and allow us to heal.
A truly enlightened culture would step in and force intervention in these families. A truly enlightened culture would quit demanding death for everything. Before long, if this continues, we’re not going to be much different from the Taliban. Just kill everyone for everything. I truly believe the demand for death, for execution coarsens us, and turns us into the very thing we are trying not to become.
I had the misfortune of watching a few moments of Mel Gibson’s Apocalypto. In many ways, it is the most racist movie I’ve ever seen in my life. It is racist because once you watch just a few minutes of this movie, you see the vile nature of the Mayan culture, the dependency of death, and the grotesque nature of their society. It portrayed that society as dependent on death – as grotesque. Life was not important. Death was everything. Indeed, the culture was portrayed as almost demonic in nature. I truly believe this is what cultures who demand death and retribution become. Death leads to more death. It does not lead to punishment. It leads to more death.
- Life, the Death Penalty, and Child Abuse
- Published: June 28, 2008
- Type: Opinion
- Section: Politics
- Filed Under: Politics: U.S., Politics: Policy, Culture: Religion, Culture: Crime and Court
- Writer: SJ Reidhead
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First of all, let me say I'm sorry that you or any other child has to suffer abuse.
Your article makes some very valid points. Child abusers aren't born, they are made. I would be more interested in discovering what leads a person to do this and what we can do to stop it.
The "death" penalty in this country is a misnomer. Now convicted criminals are given years of appeal opportunities, and they may be very old before the sentence is carried out. Or you could be sentenced to death in a state like California, and never be executed.
SJ, I consider myself pro-life as well. You noted that it's ok to take a life in self-defense. You also mentioned war, which is a type of national or world self-defense, if the war is morally justifiable. I consider capital punishment to be a type of societal self-defense.
I don't believe that every criminal should be executed; not even every murderer. But there are people who would be unsafe to even keep confined, out of risk for the guards and fellow prisoners. It's not about retribution or deterring others. It's about preventing certain individuals from causing further harm. Some sexual predators could fall into that category.
As for your personal story, I have no idea what to say. "You have my sympathy" seems shallow, but you do have my sympathy.
What a difficult subject to try to find consensus on! I don't think that consensus is a possiblity.
Form my own posistion, I have to question the statment that ALL abusers have been abused. I don't believe that statement is correct.
Regardless, we have now learned that child sexual abusers do not 'grow out of it' when they get old. This has been shown in the evidence of priests that abuse.
I do not believe that killing abusers is a solution.
However, I do believe that child sexual abusers should be kept seperate from society, held in secure facilities, and never allowed to be released into society again.
Much as I would like vengence, I know that it will not solve anything. That is an issue that I have to deal with and I don't think that it is the role of our legal system to enforce vengence.
I think that it is the role of our legal system to protect society from predatory indivduals who harm our most innocent.
To do that, keep the predators locked up in humane conditions and never let them out. Don't give them the opportunity to rip another life apart.
I have to question the statment that ALL abusers have been abused. I don't believe that statement is correct.
I've heard that a lot as well, WK, and I agree with you that it can't be literally correct. There must have been a beginning to any particular cycle of abuse, and therefore an original abuser who was not himself abused.
However, I think what is meant is that the figures are something in the very high 90 per cent range. The numbers of first generation abusers are negligible, so to all intents and purposes it is true to say that (approximately) all abusers were abused.
Another erroneous statement: "I consider capital punishment to be a type of societal self-defense."
Nonsense. Defense occurs when an offense is being committed.
Capital punishment is retribution. Vengeance. Nothing better.
Bliffle, call it "societal prevention of the need for self-defense" then. I still think self-defense is the right term if we're stopping some criminal who's on a life-long killing spree. We have every reason to believe that the most dangerous repeat offenders will keep committing crimes.
If I were interested in vengeance, I'd say kill all the murderers. I'm interested in preventing the most dangerous people from ever hurting anyone again. Maybe super-max facilities can protect the guards and fellow prisoners sufficiently that we don't need the death penalty any more. Until we're sure, the death penalty should be on the table.
kill them,if you think they should live,castration would be good,lose a limb for murderers if they should live,and this is babylonian justice,no exceptions!!







Among the problems with this article is that it confuses "child molestation," which can take many forms, with the brutal, physically horrendous, and emotionally horrific rape of an eight year old child by her stepfather. The medical facts of the rape are graphically described in the Court's Opinion and in my article discussing it. The Court was not dealing with mere "child molestation;" it was dealing with something far worse.
You may oppose the death penalty in all cases. Many people do, and clearly that is your right. However, by failing even to mention in passing the extreme nature of the crime for which the Court rejected imposition of the death penalty, you do your cause no good. Indeed, you may well have done it harm. My suspicion is that the Court's decision here has generated very substantial support for the imposition of the death penalty, rather than the reverse. The same is true of articles such as yours.
As to the impact on the victim of participating as a witness in a criminal proceeding, I see no justification for your unarticulated basic assumption that testifying in a proceeding where the death penalty is sought is significantly different from testifying in a proceeding where the death penalty is not sought. If there is any sound basis for this assumption, it would be enlightening to have it presented. Otherwise, the logical extension of your argument is that there should be no criminal prosecution of any person who molests a small child, regardless of the circumstances, unless the child does not have to testify. Such a rule would most likely result in there being no such criminal prosecution at all, because the defendant is entitled to have the witnesses against him testify unless the witnesses are dead or otherwise completely unavailable to testify.
Dan