http://blogcritics.org/ A sinister cabal of superior bloggers on music, books, film, popular culture, politics, and technology - updated continuously. en Copyright 2005-2007 by the authors Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:52:14 EST http://backend.userland.com/rss Blogcritics.org custom software http://blogcritics.org/archives/2008/02/21/124717.php#comment-697949 Great point Jen. Being in a relationship just to be in one is a recipe for disaster. So much for the musical chairs approach to settling down. 697949@blogcritics.org Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:52:14 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2008/02/21/124717.php#comment-697948 Great point Jen. Being in a relationship just to be in one is a recipe for disaster. So much for the musical chairs approach to settling down. 697948@blogcritics.org Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:51:38 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2008/02/21/124717.php#comment-697711 Jen, you go, girl! Here's what I think, after some horrific dates, brief encounters, and a wild fling after two very long term relationships: Though it may indeed be better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, I've finally learned (hopefully) to not wonder what's wrong with me, but realize that there's something wrong with the losers in the world, and they are legion. I've examined my inner motives, and realized I was a "fixer," a reformer, and picked the most hopeless "projects" I could find for the sake of security. Sexual roles seem to have reversed themselves, and there are many passive agressive "men" out there who are spoiled rotten and have an unearned sense of entitlement. After a twenty year relationship and another 9 yeare one, I realized I'd created a monster--a totally dependent, "mothered" guy who fell apart after I left because he had no coping skills. Then the horrible guilt ensued... Anyway, great piece. Best of luck.... 697711@blogcritics.org Sun, 24 Feb 2008 14:38:27 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2008/02/21/124717.php#comment-697460 Not I! 697460@blogcritics.org Sat, 23 Feb 2008 08:04:59 EST