Dan Nied's Fortress of Weight Loss: Day 54
Published February 19, 2008
Unless of course it's just about getting laid...
Of course this isn’t just about getting laid. Getting laid is just one of the many reasons I want to lose weight.
Actually, one big difference between this and the 100 Days is that the Fortress isn’t about sex nearly as much. Really, when I was 370 pounds and 26 years old, I was worried that I would never see a boob (for free) again. But now, I don’t really have that fear. If I can be a little candid here: I know I can get laid. I also know that I will get laid in the future. I mean, this is the 21st century. It’s not hard to get some ass (unless you weigh 400 pounds).
But I will also say that there is a social element to all this. This is really about feeling comfortable with myself so I can be the best me I can be whenever The One comes around. I suppose I just got sick of all the missed opportunities in my life in that department: The crush-killing lack-of-confidence, the awkward actions in conversation while I was trying to overcompensate for my fatness. There have been plenty who have gotten away, and I am kind of sick of that happening. I am ready for a meaningful, fruitful relationship. I don’t know if I could have done that at 300 pounds.
It’s a confidence issue. I can’t tell you how others ever saw me, but because I didn’t look the way I wanted to look, I always assumed they saw me as fat and ugly. It’s something I am still working through. Every bad mirror-angle sends me into a bit of a tizzy. What I am hoping, and what I am almost sure will happen, is that as I get down to my goal weight, I will start to look different, and my confidence will rise. It already has to a degree. Eventually, I might just be the cockiest sonovabitch in the history of the world. I will probably annoy my friends, and get a little too big for my britches.
But at least I’ll be good looking.
And with that, I leave. There are two other comments I wanted to get to, but this is running unbearably long. So I will save those for tomorrow.
- Dan Nied's Fortress of Weight Loss: Day 54
- Published: February 19, 2008
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Great job as usual. Your attitude remains an inspiration.
So you DO do weigh ins more than once a week, but you only have one official weekly weigh-in?
So basically, you see the wisdom of having more than a weekly weigh-in as is the common wisdom in the weight loss world, but the others don't count for you because they aren't official? I feel as if all that stuff about doing it your way is a lot of blathering on. And yet, you make this honest revelation.
This is beginning to remind me of those confessional dramas and make me think that perhaps you need a mental check up.
I weigh in every day. Every morning. Every day is an official weigh in. I make sure I'm not overweight or underweight.
In general American society is much harsher with women who are overweight. So I wonder how you treat overweight women and if you'd consider dating one. When you're talking about seeing a boob for free (not hard in this country IMHO) and getting some ass, it doesn't sound like you're ready for a fruitful, meaningful relationship.
It sounds like a crass 15-year-old talking.
jesus, p.t....
that was some harshness. i'm in a serious, committed relationship and i still turn into a giddy little pervert as soon as the top comes off.
call me what you will, but i doubt that i'm some 15-year-old... and i doubt dan is as well.
daily weigh-ins are not recommened at all for real measurement. It is not an accurate weight. There are other factors affecting the scale besides food and exercise - so once a week is the way to go.
Purple Tigress! You're back! Where were you all this time? I missed the beratings. I'll talk about it a little more later this week, but I think I need the harsh comments, someone to share negative views on the Fortress. If it is all lollipops and congratulations (not that I don't love those, too), it is easy to lose focus as to what the real goal is. So thanks for offering your views. And thanks Zing Zang (if that is your real name) for defending me. Women don't truly understand the power that boobs have over guys.
P.T., the big problem with daily weigh-ins is that weight can vary quite a bit due to factors other than eating, and there is often a delay between an eating event and the increased weight gain associated with that event. If I weight a pound more on Tuesday, I'm liable to think I did something wrong on Monday, when it could just as easily have been Sunday, Thursday, or a random weird schedule alteration.
Weighing weekly keeps one from getting bogged down on chasing details.
Awww Dan, you do care! Thanks for posting on one of mine.
I'm beginning to think that P.T. is Jillian from The Biggest Loser (in episodes 7 & 8 or during any "last chance workout").
I never heard you say you were ready for a meaningful and "fruitful" relationship. I heard you working on yourself, for your own needs, sharing yourself for your needs (and the bonus is that it helps others) and that you are doing it your way in your own time. In fact, that 240 'girl across the room' was just a metaphor...right? (please say yes). So someone might need to reread your story.
And you know what? sometimes you do sound like a crass 15 year old...I love that about your posts! I laughed at the boob (for free) line. But then again, I have both a sense of humor AND an appreciation for the fact that there is more than just MY way of doing things.
Take care.





You gotta love viewer mail days. And I stand by my comment that I think you've begun to look at this more as a life change. I know you said all along that it was, but often times your actions revealed you to be, at best, dillusional and at worst, a liar.
I think it's worth noting that you still have a long way to go in terms of this thing making you the best person you can be. I know you can cook for yourself more, that you can keep a serious food journal, that you can count calories better and that you can make healthier eating choices- both on off days and regular days. But I'm not going to beat you over the head with it.
Jake's tough love approach isn't slanderous but it isn't really that helpful either. Anyone who knows you, knows you gravitate toward the path of least resistance the way a wingless plane would gravitate toward earth. This whole deal involves many small steps towards rethinking that perception- but you have to follow through.
Good to hear from Jake though- I would have thought for sure that he would have been knifed in some bar fight by now for running his legendary mouth.