Hi Elsa,

I'm pulling my damn hair out. I'm in a relationship with a Gemini and I'm a freakin' Cancer. Ugh. I hate being a Cancer in this relationship!

I don't know how to argue with her. She coolly spits out her venom while I lose it and flail my arms. She insults and lashes out every one of her fears on me. She is so damn stubborn, jealous, selfish and controlling.

She is scared of love and life and SELFISHLY proclaims her disappointments and my shortcomings. I work two jobs trying to save money to move back closer to her but she doesn't see this! She thinks I am just "broke" all the time. Uhhh it costs money to save money. Hello?

But I forget. How silly am I? She needs to be spoiled and taken on lavish outings. And I'm supposed to know this already, even when she says she likes supporting my money saving. SHE DOESN'T.

She thinks my vague and indirect Cancer ways are equivalent to lying. Her possessive, jealous rages are insane and scary! They're enough to cause an ulcer. I think I have one.

But... I am a Cancer. My claws are embedded deep and it's tough to let go. My cancer tears are a deep well of worry.

How do I show a Gemini my heart and earn her trust?? There's gotta be a way to make this work!??? What is the solution here!? Any advice????

Frantic and Fretting Cancer

Dear Frantic,

Yikes, man. You've got your hands full, don't you? And apparently you like it. And I am not sure what I can tell you besides this is this gal's nature. And yours.

By that I mean, she has Venus and Mars in Aries, so she is going to want to fight. She is not interested in wimps. And you may be a Cancer, but you have an Aries Moon, did you know? So what looks like "home" to you is... her! So sorry, hon.