Blogcritics Comments on A Helping Hand: Inappropriately Dressed Co-Worker

Comment by jack dumas on A Helping Hand: Inappropriately Dressed Co-Worker

Thu, 21 Jun 2007 12:51:30 EDT

Of course rules are just for men. Women have more freedom in dress than men, yet they see themselves as the victims. No, you do not have the right as a women to wear anything you want at the office, I repeat, WOMEN DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO WEAR ANYTHING THEY ANT IN THE OFFICE. This is where most women get it wrong. Men do not have that freedom, women are given way too much freedom here. In three of my previous workplaces, men have risen up and complained about the double standards in dress code betwee men and women (I think you will see this more from the younger generation). One of the workplace actully did take action and women were no longer able wear shorts to work since men were not. "No one is responsible for the way someone else chooses to behave or react - even with regard to a scantily clad co-worker" This quote does not even make sense, this would be a great defense for a flasher. In addition the quote still does not make sense because this is exactly what the woman often want, to control how other look. If the guy is interseting and good looking, she does want the look and staring becomes ok, but if the guy is ugly she does not want him to stare. This is one of the way women weild power on men, buy being passive aggressive, and acting like victims to get sympaty when their plan don't work. When it comes to dress, two men can make the exact same comment to a woman and mean the exact same thing, if the woman like one guy, then everything is OK and she's happy, if the women does not like the man, for example the man is ugly, then the woman can act offended and cry sexual abuse and/or harassmenn. Women that dress in this way have to stop acting like victims escpecially when they know that they are in fact the aggressor and that is why they are doing it.

Comment by MCH on A Helping Hand: Inappropriately Dressed Co-Worker

Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:56:43 EDT

Re #3; So do you think that's why Newt Gingrich committed adultery with Callista Bisek...because she was freely showing her goodies in his office?

Comment by RJ on A Helping Hand: Inappropriately Dressed Co-Worker

Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:20:56 EDT

Men can (and should) hold their tongues, but they simply cannot avert their eyes. That's, like, Rule #1 in the Book of Men. When a young, attractive female dresses inappropriately (say, exposing vast amounts of cleavage) in the workplace, her male co-workers will look. (Assuming they are heterosexual, of course.) That does not mean they are a bunch of perverts. Heck, even elderly, happily-married, and completely impotent men will look at what is shown. It's an inborn behavior, much like breathing. And if a ~~slut~~ female co-worker is freely showing her goodies in the workplace, management needs to step in before there is trouble. Rule #2 in the Book of Men states that men will fight amongst each other for the attentions of attractive women. And as a manager of a business, that is not a beneficial outcome. If all else fails, convert to Islam and demand that she wear a burka to work. I'm pretty sure the ACLU will back you up on that.

Comment by Danielle on A Helping Hand: Inappropriately Dressed Co-Worker

Tue, 19 Jun 2007 14:09:33 EDT

There is yet another option. Say something to an inappropriately dressed coworker. In conversation bring up the subject of appropriate attire very generally and listen to their response. Speak nonjudgmentally since no matter how someone is dressed they shouldn't be succumbed to judgment. If you work in a communications department redistribute the company dress code. By saying nothing at all while being offended or judgmental is living untrue to yourself and contributing to an uncomfortable work environment. If the person in question refuses to get the hint, you will know that you have been honest to yourself and others. Very good piece. Be well and enjoy the day.

Comment by sadhant on A Helping Hand: Inappropriately Dressed Co-Worker

Tue, 19 Jun 2007 14:08:21 EDT

it's not far from an "inappropriate dress" judgement to the justification a mullah provides to explain why women should be whipped for showing a little wrist...